My BF is active on dating app

[mlj1225]

Originally Posted by Gemma25

I do feel like a doormat within myself.

I think confronting him as gone out the window.
It’s too late.
I’ve dance around the idea too long and I couldn’t go through with it.

I’ve keep saying things, hinting betrayal and cheating but he is not clocking on as he still very active online.
But he seem turning the table on me and asking if I have been hanging or seeing other guys.
I think it’s his guilty conscience talking.

I saw him last night, again we spend over 24 hours together. He is always so present when he is with me.

But when he left me he was straight back on POF.


To be honest I don’t know what to do, I know what I should be doing logically but I can’t physically bring myself to do it.

The strangest bit of all, I am not upset with him when I am with him. We have good time to together although sometimes I get flashbacks. I just feel numb, is this really happening

OK, then. This will be your life. Good luck.

[sinsativ]

Originally Posted by Gemma25

So last week when I was with my bf I thought a notice a notification from POF on his phone but I wasn’t sure. I left it for few days and I kept getting flashbacks.

So I decided to create online profile and I went on there it didn’t take me long to find him there online.

I started up conversation. He was very responsive.
I asked him about his last relationship .
He said he was single and looking for seriou relationship.

What shocked me the most apart from the obvious cheating is the fact he completed denied I existed.
He said he is last relationship was three months ago and the his ex movd to another city.



I asked him if he wanted to meet up for a drink .
He said sure.
He gave me his real name and real phone number.

I told him decided I wasn’t ready to meet him obviously I can’t.

He said best of luck.

So me I called him and asked if I meet up with him.
We met up.
I asked him if he was missing anything from our relationship. He said no and that
He was very happy in our relationship.

Then I asked him general question about cheating in happy good relationship.

He said some men sometimes just want more. The like having many options as possible.
And I think this is the Category he falls into.

I have contemplated confronting him so many times today. But each time I back down.

I love him to bits I just don’t what to do.

Is there anywhere I can’t confront him where I keep him but get him stop doing it.

Is there any hope for us.
I just don’t know what to do.

"Rupert Holmes" Escape, (Pina Colada Song)


I was tired of my lady, we´d been together too long
Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song
So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed
And in the personals column, there was this letter I read
"If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
If you´re not into yoga, if you have half a brain
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
I´m the love that you´ve looked for, write to me, and escape"
I didn´t think about my lady, I know that sounds kind of mean
But me and my old lady, had fallen into the same old dull routine
So I wrote to the paper, took out a personal ad
And though I´m nobody´s poet, I thought it wasn´t half bad
"Yes, I like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
I´m not much into health food, I am into champagne
I´ve got to meet you by tomorrow noon, and cut through all this red tape
At a bar called O'Malley's, where we´ll plan our escape"
So I waited with high hopes, then she walked in the place
I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face
It was my own lovely lady, and she said, "Oh, it´s you"
And we laughed for a moment, and I said, "I never knew"
"That you liked Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
You´re the love that I´ve looked for, come with me, and escape"
"If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
If you´re not into yoga, if you have half a brain
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
I'm the love that you've looked for, come with me, and escape"
Songwriters: Rupert Holmes