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This sounds like the potential for some horrific headlines on the 5pm local news.
Yeah, not sure if this "extremely good in the sack" guy is worth it, if it is, you had better keep it a secret, for some reason the STBX has some issue with him.
Of course we all know these kinds of secrets don't stay secret very long.......
I'm sure both of you Hounds are right. I'm focusing on finding a job elsewhere. And no, I'm not on my work computer.
I do think my STBX was just trying to be a tough guy. He is one of the most passive people I've ever met. But just in case, it's not worth it to stay there.
I'm sure both of you Hounds are right. I'm focusing on finding a job elsewhere. And no, I'm not on my work computer.
I do think my STBX was just trying to be a tough guy. He is one of the most passive people I've ever met. But just in case, it's not worth it to stay there.
A lot of people are all talk and no go.
Get busy job hunting. If Ruth is right about your job market get it done quickly.
It's such a beautiful solution. All the conflicts go away in an instant. From then on you have two separate relationships with no interaction as long as you don't discuss new flame with STBX.
It will eventually come out, just be away from ground zero when it happens. Once you are at another job your previous HR department is out of the picture for you. They can't do anything after the fact, after you're gone. (Except be glad.)
This workplace stuff is a type of "third rail" for employers. You can be sure if they catch wind they'll do something in only 1-2 days, and their best tool is termination. Also, guessing both your men have more senior positions, you are the easiest to lose looking at it from a corporate perspective.
I'm sure both of you Hounds are right. I'm focusing on finding a job elsewhere. And no, I'm not on my work computer.
I do think my STBX was just trying to be a tough guy. He is one of the most passive people I've ever met. But just in case, it's not worth it to stay there.
How can you go from stating you are afraid he will harm himself or you if you ask for a divorce to saying he's one of the most passive people you've ever met?
"But just in case", you need to alert HR to the threat. Even if you leave, your STBX and BF will still be in the same workplace. You leaving your job will not diffuse the situation. They will still work together.
At the very least, you have warned your BF about the threat.
"But just in case", you need to alert HR to the threat.
That would be in effect turning in resignation notice, because OP will probably get terminated. She can't report what STBX said without giving the 'why.'
I'm sure both of you Hounds are right. I'm focusing on finding a job elsewhere. And no, I'm not on my work computer.
I do think my STBX was just trying to be a tough guy. He is one of the most passive people I've ever met. But just in case, it's not worth it to stay there.
He may be a passive mellow guy, but affairs of the heart pull the crazy out of people, lots of normal people have gone to prison for losing their cool and doing irrational things
That would be in effect turning in resignation notice, because OP will probably get terminated. She can't report what STBX said without giving the 'why.'
Depends on workplace policy and whether one is a direct report to the other.
The hardest part to explain is this: Even if I lose my reputation at work, or my job or even if it doesn't work out with him - it will still have been worth it. I could still look back and remember that brief period in my life, the only time, when I was totally and completely happy.
As someone who has been there, don't be so sure. You are on a "pink cloud" and not approaching life with clear eyes right now. You are being fueled by dopamine. You're like a drunk on a bender.
I look back on the year following my separation/divorce with a lot of regrets (how I interacted with my ex, my kids, my flings) although at the time it felt great and right. I sobered up after awhile and now just feel a bit embarrassed about it all. I was definitely not myself.
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