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If she is genuine, you can give it a shot and not get too deep. If you get a hint that it's a 'beta bucks' thing, which I never even heard of before this thread (but is brilliant), then leave without explanation.
You and I are more or less the same age. I started talking to an old classmate of mine from high school a little while ago, he asked me to go out for drinks. Long story short, we hit it off and have been in a relationship for going on 7 months. He is divorced and has two teenagers. They're actually really good kids and I, surprisingly enough, enjoy the weekends when he gets them. I am childfree and kept saying I'd never date a guy who had kids. These two kids of his changed my mind because they're actually fun to be around. And this former classmate of mine treats me better than all of my former boyfriends ever did. I'm so happy that I took a chance on him.
Just for reference, we were in a lot of the same classes in school but we were not friends back then. I remember he used to argue with me about stupid stuff. He was kind of annoying back then. But that was over 26 years ago and a lot of life has happened between then and now. We're both older, wiser, and have some battle scars from what we've been through. But we both keep saying that it was necessary to go through all we've been through to recognize and appreciate what we have found in each other.
So you can take it or leave it but I'm happier than I've ever been in my life. I've never felt so loved. I'm so happy I gave him a chance.
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Originally Posted by merchantfour
I was on Facebook recently and I saw a message from a girl from school (well, I mean woman. We're both 43 now). Now back in the day I really liked her and she knew it, well pretty much everybody in our class knew it.
I was confused because I knew she was married and had kids and all of that, so I was wondering why she'd contact me out of the blue, especially considering she wasn't interested in me when we were younger.
Well I quickly found out that she got divorced about 6 months ago. Then I found out that she had been with some other guy for a few years previous to her marriage, and had a kid with him too. She still looks pretty good but I'm really wondering why she would suddenly show an interest in me after all these years.
I remember at school she once told me that I'd be a great boyfriend and a good husband but that she's just not into someone like me but I'd be perfect for someone else. I also remember the guys she went out with and they weren't exactly upstanding members of society.
But now she's sending me messages talking about how I'm a great catch and how she feels that maybe it's time for her to settle with someone like me. I've had a few conversations with her and she's very complimentary and it makes me think why didn't she just go with me back then and why would she now, after all this time, show an interest?
Never give a second chance to anyone who rejects you.
You and I are more or less the same age. I started talking to an old classmate of mine from high school a little while ago, he asked me to go out for drinks. Long story short, we hit it off and have been in a relationship for going on 7 months. He is divorced and has two teenagers. They're actually really good kids and I, surprisingly enough, enjoy the weekends when he gets them. I am childfree and kept saying I'd never date a guy who had kids. These two kids of his changed my mind because they're actually fun to be around. And this former classmate of mine treats me better than all of my former boyfriends ever did. I'm so happy that I took a chance on him.
Just for reference, we were in a lot of the same classes in school but we were not friends back then. I remember he used to argue with me about stupid stuff. He was kind of annoying back then. But that was over 26 years ago and a lot of life has happened between then and now. We're both older, wiser, and have some battle scars from what we've been through. But we both keep saying that it was necessary to go through all we've been through to recognize and appreciate what we have found in each other.
So you can take it or leave it but I'm happier than I've ever been in my life. I've never felt so loved. I'm so happy I gave him a chance.
I don't think it is unnatural for someone who is 43 to look up old (possibly romantic) acquaintances. It might be a combination of "do I still have it?" as well as simply a mid-life crisis type issue. I don't think she'd be contacting you for good reasons ( long term ). She might just be looking for a quickie but maybe put some strings on you that you can't untangle.
I'd tread carefully. You'll probably have some good laughs talking about that time your 11th grade math teacher snorted coffee out of his nose - but things past high school, your lives have probably diverged. She might simply be looking up other boys (now men) from high school and your name was first on the list of those that are (presumably) unattached at the moment.
I have trouble going with someone who rejected me in the past too. It's a mind-**** and have decided to pass every time. But I'm a woman. I think a lot of men wouldn't be able to resist at least hitting it a few times.
Anytime anyone contacts you form the past “out of the blue” it’s because they remember what you were to them, not what you are now.
In your case, you where a self admitted puppy dog who wanted nothing more than to the attention of someone unwilling to give it.
Proceed with caution until you can surmise if the intent goes beyond simple remembrance.
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