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This is the OP's M.O., constantly having these weird encounters and makes a big deal out of nothing. Comes here with these weird scenarios and causes a firestorm. I don't believe any of his encounters are that out of the ordinary or crazy, he just over exaggerates for whatever reason.
It has everything to do with the situation. People who don't value being in a relationship, and don't want to be in one, aren't in a position to give good advice to people about whether a specific incident is a deal breaker in a relationship.
It has everything to do with it. Because everything's a deal breaker to you.
Sorry, I disagree. The Dissenter has every right to comment and express his opinion irrespective of his personal situation. You can accept his opinions on the basis if they are reasonable. It's what the person is saying, not who said it.
So we've gone from a quarter to a dollar. Neither is correct, she told OP to tip a few dollars.
What - did she think this was his first time ordering food?
OP, you were wrong to do as she told you. You should have ignored her. She probably would have gone on and on about it, but that in itself would tell you something.
She said "You may want to tip them a couple of bucks".
Assuming "a couple of bucks" is $2, the dollar is correct as it was mentioned in regards to splitting the amount.
But does it really matter? We are talking about an insignificant amount regardless.
Well, true, the amount THIS time isn't significant - just wanted you/others to get your facts straight. However, next time you buy a 25 cent or one dollar item feel free to toss a few bucks at the cashier, and don't forget to tip.
That aside, she's a bossy control freak and if OP is smart he won't spend any more time with her.
Well, true, the amount THIS time isn't significant - just wanted you/others to get your facts straight. However, next time you buy a 25 cent or one dollar item feel free to toss a few bucks at the cashier, and don't forget to tip.
That aside, she's a bossy control freak and if OP is smart he won't spend any more time with her.
Again, this is really the issue here. People keep dwelling on the value of the tip. The issue here is she was TOTALLY out of line suggesting that he leave a tip. If she makes this big of a deal over this, I can only imagine what she would be like on other things.
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Well, true, the amount THIS time isn't significant - just wanted you/others to get your facts straight. However, next time you buy a 25 cent or one dollar item feel free to toss a few bucks at the cashier, and don't forget to tip.
That aside, she's a bossy control freak and if OP is smart he won't spend any more time with her.
Bossy, control freak. Hmmm.
I personally appreciate it when my friends point stuff out to me, and they appreciate it when I point stuff out to them. That I might have missed.
Who's to say, this early in the relationship, that she's not doing exactly that? He doesn't know her yet. Maybe she's one of those extremely helpful people who notice things and might whisper them to him.
Did you see the tip jar, maybe you should put in a couple bucks? Did you notice the end of the line is way back there, not here? Did you see that colleague tried to shake your hand but you were looking the other way? I think you might have parked too close to that fire hydrant - maybe you should pull up a few yards?
If there's a positive way to view an interaction, and a negative way, try the positive way first.
I personally appreciate it when my friends point stuff out to me, and they appreciate it when I point stuff out to them. That I might have missed.
Who's to say, this early in the relationship, that she's not doing exactly that? He doesn't know her yet. Maybe she's one of those extremely helpful people who notice things and might whisper them to him.
Did you see the tip jar, maybe you should put in a couple bucks? Did you notice the end of the line is way back there, not here? Did you see that colleague tried to shake your hand but you were looking the other way? I think you might have parked too close to that fire hydrant - maybe you should pull up a few yards?
If there's a positive way to view an interaction, and a negative way, try the positive way first.
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Bossy, control freak. Hmmm.
I personally appreciate it when my friends point stuff out to me, and they appreciate it when I point stuff out to them. That I might have missed.
Who's to say, this early in the relationship, that she's not doing exactly that? He doesn't know her yet. Maybe she's one of those extremely helpful people who notice things and might whisper them to him.
Did you see the tip jar, maybe you should put in a couple bucks? Did you notice the end of the line is way back there, not here? Did you see that colleague tried to shake your hand but you were looking the other way? I think you might have parked too close to that fire hydrant - maybe you should pull up a few yards?
If there's a positive way to view an interaction, and a negative way, try the positive way first.
Intent is irrelevant. It was NOT her place to suggest the OP tip with his money on a pick up order where a tip is not usually given. For a first date, I’d highly avoid giving “advice” like that to essentially a stranger at that point.
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