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Old 09-03-2018, 06:46 AM
 
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I was on a first date last night. Had a nice time. However, when I went to order pizza at local market...when I placed the order....my date points to the tip jar and goes, "You may want to tip them a couple of bucks"

I never believed in putting tips in tip jars, it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I only tip actual servers in sit down restaurants, not when I order pick-up. But I tipped anyways so that I didn't look like a dick and make my date believe I don't tip AT ALL. lol. So I went ahead and did it.

I don't know, gents, would you have done what I did, just to make a good impression?

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Old 09-03-2018, 07:23 AM
 
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That was the best way to handle it! I'm with you, I don't like the tip jar thing either, and I use to work as a server!
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Old 09-03-2018, 07:24 AM
 
Location: The ghetto
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I was on a first date last night. Had a nice time. However, when I went to order pizza at local market...when I placed the order....my date points to the tip jar and goes, "You may want to tip them a couple of bucks"
I think your date was out of line to do that.
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Old 09-03-2018, 07:32 AM
 
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Did you lose sleep over this?
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Old 09-03-2018, 07:42 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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This is an interesting thread.

I wouldn't be too concerned over just this. Coming to a conclusion that you and this person aren't compatible over a difference of opinion in whether using a tip jar is appropriate would be a little silly.

But this is the kind of minor thing to take note of and if you continually keep having these
philosophical differences where you two just don't ever seem to be on the same wavelength then maybe this isn't the person for you?

I probably would have done the same thing and then made a small mental note over it and just see how future interactions with this person go.

I'm saying this if your goal is to have a long term relationship and not a casual date.
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Old 09-03-2018, 07:52 AM
 
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It was none of her business whether you chose to tip the tip jar. If that were important to her, she should have made a mental note and kept her mouth closed. If tipping the jar were that important to her, she should have put the tip in the jar. I never know how much my date leaves for a tip. If he chooses to pay, it is none of my concern. Be cautious of other bossy suggestions on future dates.
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Old 09-03-2018, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Central New Jersey
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I don't tip the jar myself. Table tipping yes. A jar no
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Old 09-03-2018, 07:57 AM
 
Location: USA
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She was out of line and seems bossy. I never put money in the tip jar; I don't like the idea of it.
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Old 09-03-2018, 08:01 AM
 
Location: The ghetto
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Be cautious of other bossy suggestions on future dates.
Yeah. I wonder how she would have reacted if the OP said no.
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Old 09-03-2018, 08:03 AM
 
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Mood cut.

I'm not at all a fan of food on a first date. Food diminishes the potential benefits you get out of alcohol.

I hope this was a pizza jaunt that included a walk on a beach boardwalk. That's a passable but not ideal first date. I fail to see how eating pizza at a market advances the cause.

Yes, she kind of put you in a difficult position there, but you put yourself in it by selecting that date plan.

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