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I've seen some childless guys say that they would only date a single mom if she has only 1 kid, but not if she has more than 1 kid. Why is that? Does it have to do with money?
sure.
1 kid is not as much of financial burden as the old woman who lived in a shoe had so many kids she didn't know what to do. If you marry her, you eventually adopt her brood of kids, they all need new shoes and braces and vaccinations - there goes my g*dmn new Tesla.
1 kid means she might be open to having more. I have specifically met & dated women who had 3 kids, they told me on the second date - no more diapers for me, I'm done, got my tubes tied to make sure of that.
Now if her kids are grown, or she's financially solvent/successful, and no more kids are planned - it's all good.
1 kid means she might be open to having more. I have specifically met & dated women who had 3 kids, they told me on the second date - no more diapers for me, I'm done, got my tubes tied to make sure of that
Oooooooh now that makes sense.
The money part not so much. Each situation is different.
It's very situation dependent. I've dated childless men who didn't have an issue with seeing a woman with more than one child. My husband included. I had three from my first marriage. He previously dated a woman with two kids. It wasn't a major concern for him.
It's very situation dependent. I've dated childless men who didn't have an issue with seeing a woman with more than one child. My husband included. I had three from my first marriage. He previously dated a woman with two kids. It wasn't a major concern for him.
Yes I know but I was specifically asking about the ones who say that only 1 kid is okay. That perplexed me.
I dated a single mom who had only one child and one kid doesn’t compromise your time or energy as much as two or three would.
Really? Why not? I mean, they still have to get a sitter in order to have alone time with you, and as far as energy, have you been around a 2 yo lately? LOL
Might also be a judgment on her morals. One kid could be a "whoops," but three kids with three different guys is a personality trait. (As they could see it, I mean.)
If it's 3 kids from the same guy, then the money and time thing more likely.
I'm sure there are some immature men up there who would think a woman with multiple kids is "used up" or some nonsense too.
It's a time commitment from the mother no matter how you slice it. There's some women who get divorced, or the relationship ended, and the father of the child continues to handle his parental responsibilities. However, I've mostly seen it where the father DOESN'T stand up and handle his parental duties. Another wrinkle I've experienced is when the father wants to be involved to a greater extent, but there's bad blood between the mom and the dad. As in, the mom isn't too fond of the dad, so she keeps him more at arms length then maybe necessary. You have no say so coming in as an outsider, so you have to decide what seems reasonable and what doesn't.
I've had some success with dating single mom's, but it's been a while since I've dated one to be quite honest. It's a different dynamic that doesn't work for everyone.
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