Help, my husband unemployed for 4yrs and I'm resentful! (sexy, partner, different)
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excuse me? I have no idea who this good bible believing, praying person is or who you are accusing of illegal activity. Insults are not cool, back off. You should be reported.
You're showing us what is in your heart, no one else's. Keep it to yourself
Working under the table is illegal. I would never suggest it to anyone, as being so unscrupulous is not "in my heart". Shirking one's responsibility to one's children is either illegal (if said child is a minor) or unethical (if said child is not), and just in general a really crappy thing to do, so I would never suggest that either.
He should not get a job under the table for a variety of reasons.
First, and foremost to me, if he works under the table, that continues with the OP being the provider and makes her more liable to pay alimony if a divorce occurs.
In addition it does nothing to help him pay back any past due child support, thus allowing him to further continue to avoid his responsibilities.
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He should at least pay for his children's food when they come and stay. Aguy at our church owned a huge towing company. It was very common for his employees to have their wages garnished, he hired down and out folks with criminal records. He paid cash when they worked overtime so they could exist. Otherwise people cannot afford to work. We had a few employees we did this with too. Sadly both were bums who never exerted much energy. It's illegal during the interview to ask if anyone is going to phone me down to line telling me to garnish your wages.
Oh, he cheated the state and federal governments, his worker's comp insurance carrier, and the garnishor when his employees worked overtime. He purjured himself every quarter on his payroll tax returns. What a swell, church-going guy.
Oh, he cheated the state and federal governments, his worker's comp insurance carrier, and the garnishor when his employees worked overtime. He purjured himself every quarter on his payroll tax returns. What a swell, church-going guy.
"He paid cash when they worked overtime so they could exist."
Once they got on their feet, no cash.
Second month, no cash.
You hate that part because it means this church going man enabled another man to pay taxes and pay off his debts.
Get on his feet. Be a productive member of society.
Otherwise he couldn't afford to even get to work withouout the cash.
All newbies are offered some overtime to get them some gas $$ in order to get to work
Otherwise, there will be no working because pay is every 2 weeks
And they have no gas $$ to get to work
It is a good thing when men pay back debts and support their families just as the Ops husband should do.
If you are on welfare, and I know there are some here, then I can see how this might offend you.
I didn't mean to offend you but you too can get off welfare,
take ANY Job to get on your feet at first.
Don't start being self-righteous demanding your first paycheck be paying taxes.
Get on your feet so you can pay even more taxes, and re-pay your debts to your children's mother.
You need to be able to obtain the job in order to be a productive member of soceity
He should get a job under the table for a variety of reasons.
First, and foremost to me, if he works under the table, that continues with the OP being the provider and makes her more liable to pay alimony if a divorce occurs.
In addition it does nothing to help him pay back any past due child support, thus allowing him to further continue to avoid his responsibilities.
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Originally Posted by picardlx
I might be wrong but I think Mikala43 may have accidentally omitted the word "not", given my understanding of the rest of her post.
There is very little the OP could do about her husband accepting an under the table job.
If he DOES get a job under the table, and she is aware of it, she could report him and the employer to potentially mitigate her alimony liability.
However reporting that arrangement would likely result in her spouse not having any income, resulting in no effect on her alimony payments. Then again, maybe the firm places him on the payroll so he has a reported income.
I worked overnight last night when I received the aforementioned text. I told him we can talk about it all when I came home today. I was nervous on the whole drive home thinking we were gonna have "the talk" today. But when I got home this morning he was still sleeping, so I just climbed into bed and went to sleep myself. He let me sleep well into the afternoon. When I woke, I was ready for him to approacj. I didnt know if he would be angry, sad or defeated. I couldn't predict his mood.
Imagine my surprise when he greeted me with a hug and pastries from Sams Club! I only had about an hour to get ready for work again tonight, but he was being so sweet and nice. Even wanted us to look at new real estate online! WTF!!!
I didnt know how to react so I took the easy way out and didn't address anything. He didnt even mention the text.
(Sigh) I let it go for now because after tonight, I'll have several days off work and will try to address it then. Before I left for work he said he's gonna make reservations for an expensive steak house tomorrow night cuz "we deserve a good steak meal".
Honestly, I don't even know what to think right now. Is he being evasive on purpose? Too afraid to deal with all of this. Is he just hoping for the best or is he being manipulative, thinking if he's nice enough I'll forget about everything?
Either way, we'll definitely have the talk this week, before I go back to work next week.
OP, it's obvious he's buttering you up, and trying desperately to stay on your good side. The text tells you he's been worried, so he's going all out to be super nice. He doesn't want to lose his gravy train.
I might be wrong but I think Mikala43 may have accidentally omitted the word "not", given my understanding of the rest of her post.
You are absolutely correct.
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