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I'm not the OP so am not certain, but I think the gist of it is what if there is attraction while in HS, is it OK to act on it *after* the younger party is 18 or older - OP?
No, I actually meant while the student was in high school, as was the case for my situation.
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Call me sexist if you want - I see this quite differently with female teacher/male student (which I think is pretty much OK, so long as the kid is of age of consent) and male teacher/female student (which I have pretty strong reservations about). Since it's always the female that might get pregnant, an older female who (I would assume) has that precluded or has a backup plan, is in a less vulnerable position than a young girl. Just IMHO.
In my case, I was a teenage girl and she was a woman, so pregnancy wasn't an issue.
No, I actually meant while the student was in high school, as was the case for my situation.
In my case, I was a teenage girl and she was a woman, so pregnancy wasn't an issue.
You say you're still bitter. IMO, you have reason to be. You were a kid, really, and she was a grownup, and you trusted her. Have you spoken to anyone about this? A professional?
When we're very young we think we're "ready" for what more sophisticated people are doing, but we CAN be hurt, and badly. She was wrong and you were underage and in a position well beneath her, a position where she would have seemed larger than life in your eyes. I think you should speak to someone who would be understanding and give you some perspective.
FWIW, I personally don't think this is about pregnancy at all. (And anyway, didn't that one female teacher get PG by her 15-year-old student? So there's no guarantee there either.) More to the point, it can mess with one's head, badly.
Eh. I am good friends with a couple. They met when he was a high school senior and she was a first-year teacher. Not sure if their relationship started when he was still in school, but they've been married for 20 years and both are influential leaders in the same community.
In tons of posts on here, posters 21/22 years old are frequently told they're "not old enough " or mature enough .
So what do you say about my brother's art teacher, fresh out of college at 22.He was a high school senior
but still only 17 at the time.
In tons of posts on here, posters 21/22 years old are frequently told they're "not old enough " or mature enough .
So what do you say about my brother's art teacher, fresh out of college at 22.He was a high school senior
but still only 17 at the time.
In tons of posts on here, posters 21/22 years old are frequently told they're "not old enough " or mature enough .
So what do you say about my brother's art teacher, fresh out of college at 22.He was a high school senior
but still only 17 at the time.
Still wrong. She was in a certain position which entails trust. In addition, if she would be that unprofessional - go ahead and date a student, and a minor, no less - she would, IMO, cross boundaries elsewhere, because somehow, the rules just don't apply to her. She's different, somehow. So it's okay for her to break the law in several ways (assuming age of consent in their state is 18).
I'm not impressed by this woman, at least from what you've said (obviously I don't know her), and I definitely wouldn't want someone in a position of authority who thought fudging established lines was fine when she was the one in the driver's seat, being in a position of power over my children. (Sorry for the run-on sentence.)
What other rules - actually, laws - does your SIL casually decide don't apply to her? Just curious. Or is this it, at least that you know of?
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