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Why would you want to live with a divorced, emotionless gamer with three children? Ever?
Sounds horrible. Maybe you should find a more engaging companion.
oh if only it were that simple lol
working full time single parent, with 2 kids, no one to look after them for date nights etc..
my situation is definitely not easy - and that really is no excuse, that is my legit reason of not being able to 'move on'
Because this hasn't come up, I'll fall on the grenade of hate that's going to spew my way.... flame suit on/
Have you considered what other options you might have? It's not as though you're presenting yourself as top tier relationship material. 38, single with kids, oh... wait, you're not even divorced yet! Geez, you want a guy who's been burned 3 times to shack up with someone who's still married? Yeah... as always, there's a Whole lot more to this complete story than what's presented. You also posted about moving half way across the US 2 years back (about the timeline for your current dating situation), if you mentioned it to him he might just be waiting for you to set about doing that.
He could be legitimately gun shy. I know that when I met my wife, it was 2 years before we moved in together.... and I didn't have 3 failed marriages (heck, I didn't have 3 failed Relationships). You're painting a pretty picture where he's the one completely at fault here, I don't think that's the case. Not saying he's completely blameless either, that's not realistic either... looking for the Honest truth (you might be missing it too).
Because this hasn't come up, I'll fall on the grenade of hate that's going to spew my way.... flame suit on/
Have you considered what other options you might have? It's not as though you're presenting yourself as top tier relationship material. 38, single with kids, oh... wait, you're not even divorced yet! Geez, you want a guy who's been burned 3 times to shack up with someone who's still married? Yeah... as always, there's a Whole lot more to this complete story than what's presented. You also posted about moving half way across the US 2 years back (about the timeline for your current dating situation), if you mentioned it to him he might just be waiting for you to set about doing that.
He could be legitimately gun shy. I know that when I met my wife, it was 2 years before we moved in together.... and I didn't have 3 failed marriages (heck, I didn't have 3 failed Relationships). You're painting a pretty picture where he's the one completely at fault here, I don't think that's the case. Not saying he's completely blameless either, that's not realistic either... looking for the Honest truth (you might be missing it too).
I'm confused. I'm divorced (once) and he is divorced (x3) ...
oh if only it were that simple lol
working full time single parent, with 2 kids, no one to look after them for date nights etc..
my situation is definitely not easy - and that really is no excuse, that is my legit reason of not being able to 'move on'
Ok, I kind of get it. Does your ex not share custody?
Trouble with this guy is he’s getting in the way of finding someone better.
My husband and I were both young middle aged with homes of our own till we married. We were on the same page about living separately until it was legal, for several reasons. Honestly, neither of us minded a night off occasionally while we were dating. We stayed over regularly so it wasn’t a stretch.
It keeps things fresh to have your own place. Your kids don’t need some weirdo boyfriend camping there. You will be fine without anyone until a really good guy finds you. It’s so much simpler that way.
Ok, I kind of get it. Does your ex not share custody?
Trouble with this guy is he’s getting in the way of finding someone better.
My husband and I were both young middle aged with homes of our own till we married. We were on the same page about living separately until it was legal, for several reasons. Honestly, neither of us minded a night off occasionally while we were dating. We stayed over regularly so it wasn’t a stretch.
It keeps things fresh to have your own place. Your kids don’t need some weirdo boyfriend camping there. You will be fine without anyone until a really good guy finds you. It’s so much simpler that way.
my ex is in cali. I have full custody of the girls
my kids have gotten used to him coming around and staying. we go out for dinner and movies now and then. not all the time though.
after 2 years we haven't exactly 'blended' our families that much....
why is he ok with living together now though after 2 years dating!?
I was ready for it a long time ago. He kept me waiting.
And now that he wants to. Now that it SUITS him. Now that he's READY to leave best gamer buddy.
Now I feel like "ugh I can't be bothered anymore"
Well, I don't think it is fair to fault him for not being ready on your timetable. Both people have to be ready. You wouldn't move in with someone before you were ready because they said it was what they wanted, right? I hope not.
But yes, 3 divorces already is a big red flag. And the lack of emotions thing is a big deal too.
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