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Old 10-08-2018, 01:05 PM
 
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As I said, she would have been confused as to why I was so upset one week then with another woman the next. I know it's for keeps but wanted to keep it under wraps for a few months before telling her and making myself look stupid.

I'm still not convinced she has romantic feelings for me either.

Have you still not talked to her about any of this? Ask her if she is upset and why and how you two can resolve it.
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Old 10-08-2018, 01:05 PM
 
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As I said, she would have been confused as to why I was so upset one week then with another woman the next. I know it's for keeps but wanted to keep it under wraps for a few months before telling her and making myself look stupid.

I'm still not convinced she has romantic feelings for me either.
That's an assumption on your part. You didn't give her the chance to react one way or another.

Even if she had ended up confused, at least she would have known what was going on.

That's not an excuse for fading out on her IMO.

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Old 10-08-2018, 01:19 PM
 
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As I said, she would have been confused as to why I was so upset one week then with another woman the next. I know it's for keeps but wanted to keep it under wraps for a few months before telling her and making myself look stupid.
Exactly. You didn't even give her the benefit of the doubt.
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Old 10-08-2018, 01:35 PM
 
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I feel like she may have been pissed off and it does sound weird the way things worked out but I am happy now as weird as that sounds.
I am going to try and talk to her.
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Old 10-08-2018, 01:40 PM
 
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I feel like she may have been pissed off and it does sound weird the way things worked out but I am happy now as weird as that sounds.
I am going to try and talk to her.
But what we're trying to get you to see is that you didn't even for one second think about Emily. If how you were treating her is how you'd treat (and communicate with) a good friend. So you're happy, but is she?
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Old 10-08-2018, 01:43 PM
 
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Well I will have to try and talk to her although I feel uncomfortable if she does happen to have feelings for me but I guess I will just go by what she says. I have no idea what she will say.
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Old 10-08-2018, 01:50 PM
 
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I feel like she may have been pissed off and it does sound weird the way things worked out but I am happy now as weird as that sounds.
I am going to try and talk to her.

Because keeping a secret and ghosting her isn't likely to pisss her off? Oh wait ...
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Old 10-08-2018, 02:09 PM
 
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Well, as long as -you're- happy...
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Old 10-08-2018, 02:16 PM
 
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This is why I don't become friends with men I'm attracted to. Lol

Emily needs to find a boyfriend and move on, plain and simple. She will be fine after that.
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Old 10-08-2018, 02:18 PM
 
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'Sigh' I didn't ghost her, I went quiet over a short time but I haven't cut her out.
It's all speculation as to if she has feelings for me too. That must be remembered
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