Am I in the right to be pissed off? (girlfriends, girls, love)

[codergirl]

You're right to feel what you feel.I don't think that she will still understand though.Sounds like you're with a selfish person who just doesn't get it.Sounds like this isn't the first time she's done something like this...expect you to do what she wants when she wants it or she gets mad.

[Mikala43]

I think she over reacted. Stuff happens.

[RamenAddict]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

I think she over reacted. Stuff happens.

Except she is also in grad school and he’s going to have to eat anyway, so I don’t know why it has to be a long, involved dinner. Is that absolutely a requirement. If he has exams the next day, there is nothing wrong with taking a short break for an hour and getting back to it. Last I looked “dinner” isn’t usually a 5-hour or all-night experience. Order a pizza or some take out. I think the OP is making way too big a deal out of this.

[Mikala43]

Maybe. But when I'm super tired? I have no appetite.

Which really doesn't matter because he forgot, and sometimes when your busy and overwhelmed, you forget stuff; or, at least I do.

You apologize and move on, and vow to enter everything into your phone calendar so you don't make the same mistake twice.

I can't imagine raking someone over the coals because "We were supposed to break bread together!!!!!!"

People get tired and overwhelmed and forget stuff.

So what is the problem? The OP feels like the she is not a priority. Only she can answer if this is an on going problem, or a blip on the radar.

[deepsix]

Without knowing more, I tend to side more with you (OP) than your girlfriend.

Assuming that your flaking was an anomaly, and given that you had a good excuse, I think she should have been a little more lenient. That doesn't mean she should have been okay with you flaking, but then talking badly about you to your friends shows me that she either has experienced this with you before (hopefully not) or that she has a vindictive streak and is trying to get back at you.

Given that she then made plans for Friday (despite you sacrificing your grade to hang out), I'm leaning towards the vindictive streak.

[Tencent]

Drop the girl and focus on your studies until you graduate. She seems like a loser and a clown.

Either find a new girlfriend or just focus on FWB for only when you have the time. You don't really have time for a relationship right now.

[evening sun]

A little planning wouldn't go amiss. You knew you had an exam, yet scheduled the date anyhow. How about no dates the entire week before an important exam. If you are fed up with this girl, then end it, & concentrate on your studies, that is far more important.

[MinivanDriver]

Originally Posted by citybrah124

Me and my girl are both in grad school with a busy schedule. So I had an exam the next day, but made plans the day before for dinner that I forgot about. I am in class 7am to 6pm and am dead tired I forget what plans I make, plus I have an exam tomorrow. I told her about it. I told her I was going to bail and got crap for it. Girl told her roomie, my friend made me feel guilty, I asked my other friends and they made me feel like I was a dick. so I end up going and hanging out with her. I had an exam the next day and i did not do as well as I would like.

Keep in mind that was Wednesday now same week on friday night I wanted to see her cause, hey its the weekend and we are both free, no exams no nothing. Well she tells me she is too "busy" haven't caught up with her friends for like 6 weeks. So I ended up staying home on friday night. I am pretty pissed off cause she schedules dinner when its an incovenient time for me and we are both free on friday night, but nope she wants to catch up with her friends. LIke wtf I have an important exam that day and now we are both technically free but you don't want to hang out when it is a convenient time for both of us. I rarely get pissed off at anything, but I am starting to think I should have just bailed and just look out what is best for me. Part of me wants to just let it slide like it isn't a big deal like I always do and not to create problems, but then I am like no I am being mistreated. Am I in the right or wrong?

You're both right and both wrong. Quite frankly, you are both acting like idiots.

First, you shouldn't have made plans for a dinner if you were concerned about your exam. Then you forgot about the dinner date, tried to bail, and went through the motions. So you were wrong and your girlfriend was right.

Then with exams out of the way, you try to schedule something and she's too busy. Uh huh. Sounds like payback to me. So your girlfriend is wrong and you are right.

Personally? I think both of you need to grow up.

[citybrah124]

Originally Posted by MinivanDriver

You're both right and both wrong. Quite frankly, you are both acting like idiots.

First, you shouldn't have made plans for a dinner if you were concerned about your exam. Then you forgot about the dinner date, tried to bail, and went through the motions. So you were wrong and your girlfriend was right.

Then with exams out of the way, you try to schedule something and she's too busy. Uh huh. Sounds like payback to me. So your girlfriend is wrong and you are right.

Personally? I think both of you need to grow up.

The thing is I didn't bail on her. I realized I made a mistake during my tiredness and STILL made the effort to show up. I SHOWED UP apologized even though I had an exam the next day! If I didn't show up and just straight bailed on her then I understand where you are coming from. Yet it is friday, saturday, and sunday and she hasn't made any effort when we literally have nothing to do. So I am pretty bitter right now. I don't plan to make any effort anymore and everything will go according to my terms now.

[Mikala43]

Ah, you were just looking to be right to use it as a hammer. Got it.