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Old 10-10-2018, 09:51 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Hello everyone, my name is steph and let's call my husband John. John and I are married, recently we havent been getting along too well. Without getting into to much detail we just havent been seeing eye to eye lately. I know marriage is no walk in the park but ive been doing my best to communicate with him and resolve our issues. I find myself easily annoyed being in his presence. He's very one sided and doesn't really seem to care about what upsets me.

To make a long story short I'm always saved in his contact list as ' wife ' just recently I noticed he changed it to my name. I addressed the situation at first he laughed and said he didn't know what I was talking about. Then he said lots of things in his phone got deleted, he assummed it was me and said he thought I didn't want to be ' wife ' in his phone anymore..... I dont believe him none whatsoever

Today I asked him can he changed it back to ' wife ' his response ' why???? What's wrong with your name I dont see anything wrong with that ' I expressed that it bothered me and I would like it to be what it's always been.... so far he hasn't changed it back I am pissed off am I wrong? What else can I do
Who deleted stuff in his phone .. you?


So since you have been snooping and didn't find anything, I guess we do not have to worry about another woman?


Does he do other shady stuff, comes home late, change of clothes...?
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Old 10-11-2018, 12:40 AM
 
Location: Nevada
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To make a long story short I'm always saved in his contact list as ' wife ' just recently I noticed he changed it to my name. I addressed the situation at first he laughed and said he didn't know what I was talking about. Then he said lots of things in his phone got deleted, he assummed it was me and said he thought I didn't want to be ' wife ' in his phone anymore..... I dont believe him none whatsoever

Today I asked him can he changed it back to ' wife ' his response ' why???? What's wrong with your name I dont see anything wrong with that ' I expressed that it bothered me and I would like it to be what it's always been.... so far he hasn't changed it back I am pissed off am I wrong? What else can I do
I can see the point about this being petty and controlling and you shouldn't be snooping on his phone.

I can also see possible evidence of gaslighting. If you are not familiar with it, google it. You will either see it in other aspects of your relationships, or you won't. If you do... get out. Trust me on that.
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