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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by NewYorker11356
Yup.
At least that's been my experience.
Mine too. The women that want me to jump through hoops were mostly lower quality women (as in quality of character) who thought very highly of themselves and or had insecurities who needed to be chased to feel important. I'm really glad I learned to identify this pattern when I was younger and to not waste time with such people.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Sadly, people in general bore easily these days. Relationships are relegated to that of a kids new toy that they eventually get tired of.
I don't see this at all. I see when people find the right people they stay together a long time.
What they don't stay with is the wrong person, and as they get older and more self aware, they learn to identify if the person is the wrong person more quickly and end it. They get wiser.
Sadly, people in general bore easily these days. Relationships are relegated to that of a kids new toy that they eventually get tired of.
And this is the reason that I have my **personal** stance.
If men are truly interested in me they will make the effort. Far too many guys today are collecting Tinder/POF/Match OLD harems and have no real interest in getting to know any of the women in their "harem". They can meet 5 women a week with zero effort and meet them for "coffee" without spending a dime to occupy their time. Lower expectations and lower standards.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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And this is the reason that I have my **personal** stance.
If men are truly interested in me they will make the effort. Far too many guys today are collecting Tinder/POF/Match OLD harems and have no real interest in getting to know any of the women in their "harem". They can meet 5 women a week with zero effort and meet them for "coffee" without spending a dime to occupy their time. Lower expectations and lower standards.
You are really out of touch with what actually happens in dating with your “stance.” No one I know has “harems.” My friends usually go on one date a week at most. The women don’t mind coffee dates as a first step.
Spending a dime to occupy their time? It sounds like something close to prostitution when you put it that way.
Want something they can't have. I don't get about this culture the obsession with that. In any country I have travelled to there is no such obsession with getting a mate that is a "challenge". I think it's this whole Relationship Reality TV garbage that started that.
My grandparents generation was not about that non-sense. You got with someone who you were attracted to who was a friend of a friend or "around" in the neighborhood or affiliated to your family or friends nearby in some way. Dating was not between strangers but an expression between two people who had already developed a relationship. When dating became courtship that was intended to "woo" the other partner that is where the problem began and the line that differentiates traditional and Modern dysfunctional Westernized cultures.
Want something they can't have. I don't get about this culture the obsession with that. In any country I have travelled to there is no such obsession with getting a mate that is a "challenge". I think it's this whole Relationship Reality TV garbage that started that.
Yup. And then those same people wonder why they have dating issues with going after people that aren't into them, or that are non-committal.
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