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Old 10-15-2018, 10:31 PM
 
Location: Singapore
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So at work there's a girl (27F) that likes me in my department but she's not my type. In fact, she is quite repelling to me.

She keeps criticizing my work and acts like my supervisor even though she joined at the same time as I. When she acts like that I have a very nonchalant attitude which garners very little response, which is my intent. But one time she asked me if I was going to the office-wide night out at a pub and I said, "No I'm not going. Are you?" and she was like "Yes I think I'm going because I get off early."

But when I make passes in the office and look at her she averts her gaze. What's wrong? Am I too aloof or not clingy enough?

Maybe I should anomolously leave a little candy at her desk one day?
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Old 10-15-2018, 10:38 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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So at work there's a girl (27F) that likes me in my department but she's not my type. In fact, she is quite repelling to me.

She keeps criticizing my work and acts like my supervisor even though she joined at the same time as I. When she acts like that I have a very nonchalant attitude which garners very little response, which is my intent. But one time she asked me if I was going to the office-wide night out at a pub and I said, "No I'm not going. Are you?" and she was like "Yes I think I'm going because I get off early."

But when I make passes in the office and look at her she averts her gaze. What's wrong? Am I too aloof or not clingy enough?

Maybe I should anomolously leave a little candy at her desk one day?
Why would you do that if she repels you???
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Old 10-15-2018, 10:45 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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You have a crush on her! awww how cute!
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Old 10-15-2018, 10:55 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Why would you do that if she repels you???
Ditto.
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Old 10-16-2018, 12:15 AM
 
Location: Singapore
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You have a crush on her! awww how cute!
Maybe so but she has way more of a crush on me...

In any case, what should I do when she acts like me mummy? It's quite awkward and I've caught my boss noticing something is up between that girl and me.
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Old 10-16-2018, 03:05 AM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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What?
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Old 10-16-2018, 03:19 AM
 
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It's quite awkward and I've caught my boss noticing something is up between that girl and me.
Then it's a good time to start focusing more on your job and less on what your co-worker (who supposedly repels you) is doing at any given time.
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Old 10-16-2018, 04:12 AM
 
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Just keep ignoring her or mention your girlfriend.
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Old 10-16-2018, 06:10 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Can someone explain to me why he would be making passes at someone who is repellent to him?
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Old 10-16-2018, 08:35 AM
 
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If you’re “Making Passes” in the office and your boss and at least one other person is noticing, I think you better clean up your act and get to work. You do want to keep the job, right?

Or just push her face in the snow.
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