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Old 10-16-2018, 05:54 AM
 
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I've been dating this girl who was recently divorced and I think on the rebound and not ready to date. Anyways, since dating she texted me constantly and I never initiated texts. Last time we were together we were going to have sex and of course I choked and couldn't stay hard. After that she never texted me again, but I also never texted her (last Friday). I thought it was weird she didn't text me and she likely got scared off or something and lost interest since she was always texting me before. What do you think is the most likely reason she didn't text me again? I'm just trying to understand for myself, not necessarily to get back with her.

1. She thought I wasn't attracted to her from not staying hard and failing in bed?
2. Almost having sex scared her off?
3. Was not happy with me that I couldn't perform?
4. Other?

Last edited by Berteau; 10-16-2018 at 06:04 AM..

 
Old 10-16-2018, 05:56 AM
 
Location: Florida
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One of the above, 1,2,3 or 4
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:06 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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1 and/or 3 yes.

Wouldn't that be enough?

If she just wanted to hook up, then she likely doesn’t have to patience or care to work with you through whatever issues caused you to “choke.”

It sucks but it’s one of the risks.
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:19 AM
 
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Its so frustrating. I invested all this time on her and she was lying there waiting on me, and I had been waiting a long time to have a girl like her lying naked in front of me waiting, just for me to fail like that.
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:25 AM
 
Location: Hartford CT
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Damn, sorry to hear that. Only she knows for sure why she isn't contacting you, but it seems like you really know the answer. Chalk this one up to the one that got away.
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:26 AM
 
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Sex, for some of us, isn't just a random gratification thing. Saying you have been dating and texting doesn't say much about your relationship with each other.

You say "...of course, I choked..." as if you knew that would happen, or are you simply commenting on the probability of Murphy's Law applying to your failed attempt? Is that a medical problem? Did you know you were moving too fast or is it otherwise a head (emotional) problem?

What was your reaction to this failure when you saw that was what was definitely happening? Would there be any reason for her to feel like you thought your choking was her fault? If so, that would explain why she is not texting.

You should call her and ask her out. You either break the ice between you, or confirm that she is done with you - for whatever reason.
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:34 AM
 
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There are other things you could do to make the encounter worth her while. If you didn't, then kudos to her for moving along to someone who will.
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:34 AM
 
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What was your reaction to this failure when you saw that was what was definitely happening? Would there be any reason for her to feel like you thought your choking was her fault? If so, that would explain why she is not texting.
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I just told her sorry when it happened. I think she might have low body self esteem, so she might have assumed it was her? But I don't know for sure.
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:35 AM
 
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There are other things you could do to make the encounter worth her while. If you didn't, then kudos to her for moving along to someone who will.
I did do other things.
 
Old 10-16-2018, 06:39 AM
 
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I just told her sorry when it happened. I think she might have low body self esteem, so she might have assumed it was her? But I don't know for sure.
You wont know until you ask her. You might say you are dreading asking her because if she says she is done with you you will feel bad. Fair enough.

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