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"So I'm nothing to her." You're not nothing to her, you're not what you wanted to be to her. Big difference. To you, that means you're nothing, though. That's you making you nothing, not her.
"Now I don't have to waste my time and energy getting emotionally involved" You're deluding yourself. You are emotionally involved with her whether you're able to communicate with her or not. She's taking up so much real estate in your brain she can start putting up houses and hotels. What cutting her off means is that there's no chance of added communication from her to let whatever sort of relationship you had develop. You decided to cut it off and leave it as it as you saw it, without any input from her. That's borderline self-sabotage.
"Reject people before they reject me." I did this for many years. It is very damaging, mentally and emotionally. I still have lingering mental and emotional issues because I did it. And it started because a girl didn't want me...in fact, I was starting to annoy her. "No one's ever going to like me or want me, so I need to cut myself off from people so that I don't inflict myself on them." That was my thinking for over ten years. DON'T DO IT. It poisons your soul and your mind.
"Negative list." You need to get past that. Very childish. People grow. They develop. They change. They regret things they did when they were young and stupid. Like, keep a list of everyone who was mean to you; that's something a kid does. An adult does not.
"So I'm nothing to her." You're not nothing to her, you're not what you wanted to be to her. Big difference. To you, that means you're nothing, though. That's you making you nothing, not her.
"Now I don't have to waste my time and energy getting emotionally involved" You're deluding yourself. You are emotionally involved with her whether you're able to communicate with her or not. She's taking up so much real estate in your brain she can start putting up houses and hotels. What cutting her off means is that there's no chance of added communication from her to let whatever sort of relationship you had develop. You decided to cut it off and leave it as it as you saw it, without any input from her. That's borderline self-sabotage.
"Reject people before they reject me." I did this for many years. It is very damaging, mentally and emotionally. I still have lingering mental and emotional issues because I did it. And it started because a girl didn't want me...in fact, I was starting to annoy her. "No one's ever going to like me or want me, so I need to cut myself off from people so that I don't inflict myself on them." That was my thinking for over ten years. DON'T DO IT. It poisons your soul and your mind.
"Negative list." You need to get past that. Very childish. People grow. They develop. They change. They regret things they did when they were young and stupid. Like, keep a list of everyone who was mean to you; that's something a kid does. An adult does not.
how will she take the same amount of space in my brain if I blocked her on facebook which means I am not even able to see her pictures anymore or even see the conversations I had since I also deleted them? She basically did reject me without even saying it so I did her the favor. I never said she was on my negative list. She is on my negative list on facebook now since I blocked her but that doesn't mean I hate her. The guy who is on my negative list... He deserved it, and he never apologized and I haven't seen him for years so how exactly will he be coming off my negative list again?
how will she take the same amount of space in my brain if I blocked her on facebook which means I am not even able to see her pictures anymore or even see the conversations I had since I also deleted them? She basically did reject me without even saying it so I did her the favor. I never said she was on my negative list. She is on my negative list on facebook now since I blocked her but that doesn't mean I hate her. The guy who is on my negative list... He deserved it, and he never apologized and I haven't seen him for years so how exactly will he be coming off my negative list again?
1. She'll take up space in your head because you're still obsessed with her.
2. The fact that you have a "negative list" is not a good thing. Santa keeps lists...mere mortals shouldn't.
You're here to vent. I get it. I've done it. But don't confuse that with trying to ask for help. It's pretty transparent.
1. She'll take up space in your head because you're still obsessed with her.
2. The fact that you have a "negative list" is not a good thing. Santa keeps lists...mere mortals shouldn't.
You're here to vent. I get it. I've done it. But don't confuse that with trying to ask for help. It's pretty transparent.
1. I have the worst memory. Since I can't even see her profile anymore I already forgot where she is from specifically. Because I deleted the conversations I already forgot several things we talked about. I have been thinking about her less every day. Before when I would think about her I would have positive thoughts. I now have negative, disappointing thoughts when I think of the possibilities that could have been.
2. Negative list means she was blocked on facebook. That's all it means.
1. I have the worst memory. Since I can't even see her profile anymore I already forgot where she is from specifically. Because I deleted the conversations I already forgot several things we talked about. I have been thinking about her less every day. Before when I would think about her I would have positive thoughts. I now have negative, disappointing thoughts when I think of the possibilities that could have been.
2. Negative list means she was blocked on facebook. That's all it means.
1. If you say so. The fact that you're here...sort of tells that she is still an important part of you thought process. Regardless, blocking someone from communication because she's not into you...trying to "save" her from the burden you see yourself...is not a rational action.
2. The point is you have a list of people you don't want to talk to. That's childish. If you don't want to friend them, fine, I've got people like that too. But to make a list out of it? Come on.
1. If you say so. The fact that you're here...sort of tells that she is still an important part of you thought process. Regardless, blocking someone from communication because she's not into you...trying to "save" her from the burden you see yourself...is not a rational action.
2. The point is you have a list of people you don't want to talk to. That's childish. If you don't want to friend them, fine, I've got people like that too. But to make a list out of it? Come on.
I blocked her so I don't waste my time and effort talking to her and haven't since then. But if she blocked me and I came here to complain about it, I wouldn't be surprised if people were siding with her. The reason why I blocked her is my decision.
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