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Been seeing this guy for a while. for a long time it was really good. he didn’t want a gf and the relationship was just friends w/ benefits. that was fine with me but it was also a new experience for me since i was never that type of person. he also wanted us to both see other people. i said okay. I started to like it bc it was mostly just ya hanging out and dating but no drama in the relationship.
then some stuff happened and we broke up if you can call it that. We just stopped seeing each other and he just disappeared. I was hurt but at the same time i had other stuff going on.
we are back seeing each other again but this time he has a girlfriend. it makes me eye roll so hard. He insisted that he never wanted a girlfriend, hated relationships and it wasn’t his style but now suddenly he has a girlfriend. I said okay, whatever. It felt crappy because I keep thinking, so Im not good enough to be your girlfriend but you keep calling me I guess? Its just so weird.
there were so many times he told me that he loved me and that if he were a relationship guy he would marry me in a heart beat but thats just not how he worked and all this other stuff. Then when we talked about it again this time around he says that it would never work out between us in a relationship bc of issues that I have apparently.. like this is 2018. who cares if you date someone who doesn’t have a degree but it matters to him apparently and a bunch of other things.
I’m just annoyed. I guess hurt but Annoyed mainly. Why hang out with me? Why keep calling me? He says he still loves me and wants to spend time with me, that he can’t stop thinking about me, I drive him crazy etc. but why call me if i am not good enough for you. I just don’t get it
I get so tired of guys. sorry I am just complaining I guess
Been seeing this guy for a while. for a long time it was really good. he didn’t want a gf and the relationship was just friends w/ benefits. that was fine with me but it was also a new experience for me since i was never that type of person. he also wanted us to both see other people. i said okay. I started to like it bc it was mostly just ya hanging out and dating but no drama in the relationship.
then some stuff happened and we broke up if you can call it that. We just stopped seeing each other and he just disappeared. I was hurt but at the same time i had other stuff going on.
we are back seeing each other again but this time he has a girlfriend. it makes me eye roll so hard. He insisted that he never wanted a girlfriend, hated relationships and it wasn’t his style but now suddenly he has a girlfriend. I said okay, whatever. It felt crappy because I keep thinking, so Im not good enough to be your girlfriend but you keep calling me I guess? Its just so weird.
there were so many times he told me that he loved me and that if he were a relationship guy he would marry me in a heart beat but thats just not how he worked and all this other stuff. Then when we talked about it again this time around he says that it would never work out between us in a relationship bc of issues that I have apparently.. like this is 2018. who cares if you date someone who doesn’t have a degree but it matters to him apparently and a bunch of other things.
I’m just annoyed. I guess hurt but Annoyed mainly. Why hang out with me? Why keep calling me? He says he still loves me and wants to spend time with me, that he can’t stop thinking about me, I drive him crazy etc. but why call me if i am not good enough for you. I just don’t get it
I get so tired of guys. sorry I am just complaining I guess
That sucks.
Block his number, Belle. Seriously. DO NOT hook up with him anymore.
You've known all this time this wasn't really what you wanted, so block his *** and listen to your gut next time.
Sigh... I'm going to be honest, I knew this would happen. You accepted an fwb situation with this guy and that is where he is going to keep you. Now (predictably) your feelings are involved and now your self esteem is being affected. You knew this wasn't a good idea, and now you're experiencing what we predicted the first time you told us about this dude.
OP, stop torturing yourself and just move on. He's an a*hole for STILL filling your head up with fanciful ideas when he knew damn well he wouldn't follow through. And then has the audacity to say you're the one with the issues. You're allowing yourself to be used by a jerk. You know you deserve better.
I’m just annoyed. I guess hurt but Annoyed mainly. Why hang out with me? Why keep calling me? He says he still loves me and wants to spend time with me, that he can’t stop thinking about me, I drive him crazy etc. but why call me if i am not good enough for you. I just don’t get it
I get so tired of guys. sorry I am just complaining I guess
Because hes getting sex with no strings attached. And you were giving it to him.
Dont ever believe a guy 100% when he says he doesn't want a commitment. Because most men want a commitment, only with the right woman.
Guess what? You're lucky, that for whatever reason, he didn't become your BF.
Otherwise it would be YOU to whom he would be unfaithful.
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Block his number, Belle. Seriously. DO NOT hook up with him anymore.
You've known all this time this wasn't really what you wanted, so block his *** and listen to your gut next time.
Thanks i know I need too :/ it’s just hard bc we have bonded and are close. It’s hard to get close to ppl and then suddenly they are gone from your life. Just have been through a lot of that.
I'm surprised that so many women put up with this kind of treatment.
OP, ditch this guy and get some self-respect.
I tried to warn this nice young lady that she wouldn't be able to handle a FWB/FB situation. And here we are
I know you're young and exploring new things, OP but take this as a learning lesson. We all make mistakes when it comes to love/relationships. Shrug this off and move on
Please, don't think you're not good enough OP. What you experienced is what has scared me away from truly considering FWB. To me it requires a level of detachment I find unhealthy.
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