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My husband informed me this evening that he is not happy, and wants to break up. There is no one else, which I believe. He says he is responsible too, yet seems to blame me for many things. I am upset, but not devastated. He doesn't want to go to counseling. He says we need to sit down and talk things out, about splitting up, but not getting back together. We have no children, so thank goodness there are no custody issues. Has anyone gone through a similar situation? I'm sort of at a loss.
My husband informed me this evening that he is not happy, and wants to break up. There is no one else, which I believe. He says he is responsible too, yet seems to blame me for many things. I am upset, but not devastated. He doesn't want to go to counseling. He says we need to sit down and talk things out, about splitting up, but not getting back together. We have no children, so thank goodness there are no custody issues. Has anyone gone through a similar situation? I'm sort of at a loss.
Yes, I've known people in similar situations. It's shocking and unbelievable. The good thing is you're not devastated, but that may come later. Be prepared for a lot of very mixed and at times overwhelming emotions.
Seek out the support of a close friend. If that's uncomfortable there are divorce support groups in many areas that can help you process things. Prioritize taking care of yourself.
It strikes me as odd that he is not willing to even attempt to fix whatever is wrong. Had you known that he is unhappy?
I divorced after 18 years of marriage. I wanted the divorce, but it was still difficult. I'm sorry.
He didn't seem happy ,but I thought it was due to pain issues he was having. The cold wather doesn't help his pain. A lot of our problems had to do with lack of communication.
There is no one else, which I believe. He says he is responsible too, yet seems to blame me for many things.
When one party blames the other party for many things leading to that party requesting a dissolution of their 18 year marriage it makes me think that someone else has entered the picture in that parties life...either in the real or online.....unless you can state that all the things he is blaming on you are valid...I would question him a bit more deeply as to his real reasons for wanting to break up suddenly now after 18 years with you.
A lot of our problems had to do with lack of communication.
Do you love him? Did you love him when you married? Or did you marry for other reasons?
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