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"At first, I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinking, I could never live without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights thinking, how you did me wrong
And I grew strong and I learned how to get along"
Good qualities? When he is in a good mood we can laugh together. We have the same sense of humor (like a South Park episode) but he is so grumpy a lot of the time I never know what mood I’m going to get from him.
Welcome to the rest of your life if you choose to stay. That you need to ask the Internet this question is frankly quite scary. But hey, you get to smile once in a while, so by all means stay with him.
Good qualities? When he is in a good mood we can laugh together. We have the same sense of humor (like a South Park episode) but he is so grumpy a lot of the time I never know what mood I’m going to get from him.
Good qualities? When he is in a good mood we can laugh together. We have the same sense of humor (like a South Park episode) but he is so grumpy a lot of the time I never know what mood I’m going to get from him.
Do you talk to him about what's going on in your relationship? Does he know that how he's treating you makes you feel bad? It's easy for us to think he's a jerk, but you're married. You're supposed to be on the same team. He's not acting like a teammate, but at the same time he's not a mind reader, either.
On the last thread you have about 10 pages of people agreeing with you.
What's the point of staying with him?
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Title of thread: Husband puts down everything I do. Should I ignore it?
No, you should not ignore it.
Why do you think it's healthy for you and your self-esteem to stay in a relationship wherein your partner "puts down everything" you do? The examples you give of his behavior are dismissive and minimizing of you and mean-spirited in nature. It's like he conveys, "Hey stupid, that's another bad idea you had." Where's the love? Why would you tolerate anyone treating you or speaking to you that way?
If your hubby's treatment of you is acceptable to you, by all means stay. If not, give him his walking papers.
Why is this even a question? What do you think? Is it OK for other people to treat you poorly? If you tolerate it, you are saying "yes, it is OK". Do you deserve to be treated poorly? If no, stop tolerating it.
Do you talk to him about what's going on in your relationship? Does he know that how he's treating you makes you feel bad? It's easy for us to think he's a jerk, but you're married. You're supposed to be on the same team. He's not acting like a teammate, but at the same time he's not a mind reader, either.
Yes I to talk to him. As I mentioned in my original post, he will keep going back to one point which has nothing to do with what I am trying to get across. Like if I finally have had enough and I mention it’s an accumulation of many things he will just keep repeating the same thing. Like if he is mad that I picked a crowded restaurant he will say I should have called ahead (even if I told him I did) and if I tell him stop always putting me down he will just keep saying “well you should have planned better and called ahead”. And I will say I am not talking about tonight I am talking about all different examples and then he will just repeat “well you should have planned it better and called ahead”
You are stuck on the wrong things. Everyone agrees your husband is a jerk.
You need to figure out why you stay with him
You've said because you are afraid of being alone, and you don't consider you have a lot of options to find another man.
YOU need to get yourself into counseling so you figure out why you are so afraid of being alone, that you stay in an absolutely miserable relationship.
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Don't include him in your plans, join a ladies, or hobby group & go out with them. Life is too short to put up with his nonsense.
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