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Next time a date wants to bring his dog just use the earlier comment, that the dog would distract from the conversation.
Anybody who needs to bring their dog on a date probably needs an emo support dog.
Just quit doing that. Turn down dates that involve dogs and switch the plans to something else, in a polite way.
You said you are online dating. I suspect your profile may have too much dog interest shown. If so, tone it down. Just include a picture of your dog and mention that you love animals.
To clarify these weren't three dates IN A ROW. So there have been dog-less men inbetween. The first was in late-August, the last two both in October though. So yeah, I'm not sure what happened. All the guys DID have several photos with their dogs in their profiles though, which maybe should have been my clue.
So I really love kids, but especially my kid. Plus, a lot of people think kids are cute. Is it okay if I bring my kid along on our date? And we either center our date around him, like a special park just for him, or else we eat at a kid-friendly establishment?
I find it odd that you're encountering this issue so many times. If it ever happens again, that a guy says, "is it ok to bring my dog", or simply announces that he'll be bringing his dog on the date, you can counter with, "If you don't mind, I'd rather not have the distraction there. I like to focus on my date" or "I like dates to just be the two of us." If he balks, you know he's not for you. You dodged a bullet.
It would seem like if the guy told the woman ahead of time and it was worked out I wouldn't see why it would be a problem. Cute or a turn-off is subjective to every woman.
If some dude brought a dog without asking that wouldn't be cool. It would be a big ol red flag that the guy doesn't have much in the way of social skills and lack of other people's feelings/thoughts/concerns.
Last edited by Chowhound; 11-02-2018 at 10:28 AM..
It makes some sense if both have dogs to have some dates (not a first date!) where the dogs can come along, like a hike perhaps, or a visit to the dog park.
99 percent of the time it should be, "love me, leave your dog."
Well now the goal posts have been moved. We’re you aware that there was going to be a dog? I got the impression you were? You agree to a dog park or dog friendly restaurant that would usually indicate your aware there’s a DOG. Its not the same as somebody just bringing a child along. If somebody asked me if it was OK if they brought their dog I would say sure, because I like dogs —like you said you do.
If they asked me if they could bring their kid, I don’t think I’d want to go. See? Choice.
Ok, I've always just lurked on CD but had to create an account just to post here 'cause this made me laugh out loud. You have to go back out with one of these nitwits and plop down a fish bowl in the middle of the table. Tell 'em it's your emotional support guppy!
Can't believe this has to be said but...NO pets on first dates!
Well now the goal posts have been moved. We’re you aware that there was going to be a dog? I got the impression you were? You agree to a dog park or dog friendly restaurant that would usually indicate your aware there’s a DOG. Its not the same as somebody just bringing a child along. If somebody asked me if it was OK if they brought their dog I would say sure, because I like dogs —like you said you do.
If they asked me if they could bring their kid, I don’t think I’d want to go. See? Choice.
Well the hike and dog park dates were fine in theory, it’s the behavior that occurred during (requesting we sit outside in the cold to accommodate the dog and then ditching me in the park). To clarify I LIKE dogs, I have one myself. It’s the whole “dog parent” thing and entitlement to make your pet the number one priority on date one, which I think I can’t do. But you maybe could. As someone else stated — it’s subjective. And I disagree, I think it’s exactly like bringing a child.
I think it's only like doing it with a child if it is all about you, and from your standpoint. If you rotate that view around to the others being discussed (dog, date and child), no, it doesn't appear the same at all.
And that's the vibe I got from the OP from the start.
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