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Old 11-04-2018, 06:40 PM
 
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I am relieved, but I'm really hurt about the hate he is throwing at me. He could've fell out of love with me, but at least be respectful and say "I wasn't in love with you, but I appreciate all your efforts and everything you did for me." It hurts when you are a good person and did nothing wrong, and the person is treating you like you're some kind of trash scumbag loser. He is the one who cheated and who manipulated me, who abused me. Yet, I'm the bad guy? Because I wouldn't put up with his rude and nasty behavior? And yes, he is single and can do what he please, but it's only been four days! That's crazy to me because we were in a long term relationship of four years. I don't want him and I hate him, but he broke my heart and I'm mad someone who did me dirty is coming out smelling like a rose, and someone like me who was just in love with him and genuine is still getting the pain and suffering. It isn't fair. I am just really hurt that he is so disrespectful and doesn't have one ounce of dignity and decency in him to at least be respectful about the breakup.
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Old 11-04-2018, 06:58 PM
 
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A lot of people aren't respectful after breakups. It's really rare for a contentious breakup to result in either of the 2 people to say anything kind about each other unless it was a mutually agreed and amicable ending to the relationship. So I'm really not sure what you're getting so bent out of shape about here. He's being a jerk, so? So cut him out of your life 100% and stop letting him live rent free in your thoughts. Be glad you don't ever again have to deal with any of his shenanigans. That's a reason to celebrate, not get all angry about what he's doing now.
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Old 11-04-2018, 07:21 PM
 
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I am relieved, but I'm really hurt about the hate he is throwing at me. He could've fell out of love with me, but at least be respectful and say "I wasn't in love with you, but I appreciate all your efforts and everything you did for me." It hurts when you are a good person and did nothing wrong, and the person is treating you like you're some kind of trash scumbag loser. He is the one who cheated and who manipulated me, who abused me. Yet, I'm the bad guy? Because I wouldn't put up with his rude and nasty behavior? And yes, he is single and can do what he please, but it's only been four days! That's crazy to me because we were in a long term relationship of four years. I don't want him and I hate him, but he broke my heart and I'm mad someone who did me dirty is coming out smelling like a rose, and someone like me who was just in love with him and genuine is still getting the pain and suffering. It isn't fair. I am just really hurt that he is so disrespectful and doesn't have one ounce of dignity and decency in him to at least be respectful about the breakup.
You say he was rude and nasty throughout the 4 years you were with him, yet youre surprised hes being rude at the breakup? Did you expect him to do a 180 of how he was acting for 4 years, just so you can hear "thank you for breaking up with me, because I was a jerk"?
Who thinks hes coming out smelling like a rose unless youre telling them that?
Ill ask again, he moved on, why arent you? You got off light.
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Old 11-04-2018, 07:28 PM
 
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Of course you’re hurt. The relationship just ended and you’re human. You can’t be with someone for years and not feel at least a twinge when they move on a couple of days later.

He’s treating you like this because he’s abusive and manipulative and you dumped him. It wasn’t his choice and he’s mad you did something he couldn’t control. So he’s trying to hurt you back.

You dodged a HUGE bullet. I’m assuming you have no kids with this guy? You can cry your tears and never look back. That’s a gift.

The pain you are feeling now is the simply cost of getting rid of this toxic dude. Give yourself some time to grieve, cry it out with your girlfriends, then move on with your life. Millions before you have gotten over their ex and so will you. It’s going to be fine in the long run.

His behavior now should just reinforce that you absolutely did the right thing cutting this guy loose.
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