I met this man online and now I’m afraid if I be honest I will lose him. Please help

[codergirl]

Originally Posted by Lost in love2

I just want to update.

Anyways, I declined going to dinner on thanksgiving last week because I felt a different vibe from him. He turned out to be someone completely different. Last night he brought up a conversation about traveling. He said he wants someone who is able to travel with him. That being with me will hold him back, and can’t see a future with me. I tried to reason things out but we ended up arguing. We ended things there because I can’t seem to see the point of trying. In my view I see him as someone who loves material things. Loves to spend money. The more time I get to spend with him the more I see his true color. It’s sucks that things turned out this way.

Sorry that this happened to you but it's for the best.He's an idiot to not see what a hard working and financially responsible person you are.It is his loss!!

[recuerdeme]

Here's the thing chica. You are going about this entirely the WRONG way.

1) What school of courtship did you come from? He or she that invites is the person that pays.

2) But if you wish to continue on your current path, just tell him "I can't afford to go out this often or split checks of X amount every week"

3) Why is it so hard to be honest. If he is an RN then he should know that LVNs don't make as much and should be able to do a reasonable calculation to determine your ability to handle certian expenses.

My thought is that he is just not that into you. See point (1)

[SomeGuyInFairfax]

Originally Posted by Lost in love2

I just want to update.

Anyways, I declined going to dinner on thanksgiving last week because I felt a different vibe from him. He turned out to be someone completely different. Last night he brought up a conversation about traveling. He said he wants someone who is able to travel with him. That being with me will hold him back, and can’t see a future with me. I tried to reason things out but we ended up arguing. We ended things there because I can’t seem to see the point of trying. In my view I see him as someone who loves material things. Loves to spend money. The more time I get to spend with him the more I see his true color. It’s sucks that things turned out this way.

Sorry it did not work out. But you did dodge a bullet.

I have learned, the hard way, to never allow money to control a relationship. If, in the future, my S/O makes less than me or is struggling I will pay the costs and speak nothing of it. (It's simply worth it for the time together.) Or, if she earns more than me, I will not think/feel less of myself or that I am somehow unworthy.

It sounds like he let a good person go for the craziest reasons, so the loss more his than yours.