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Old 11-09-2018, 03:45 PM
 
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Actually, one thing I see is that this could get people back into an older style of dating...
Right, I mean...this idea of a bot will remind the ghoster, "Hey, you were corresponding pretty nicely with this person, why ruin this opportunity by cutting them off?"
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Old 11-09-2018, 05:00 PM
 
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Right, I mean...this idea of a bot will remind the ghoster, "Hey, you were corresponding pretty nicely with this person, why ruin this opportunity by cutting them off?"
But then some people would still ghost even with the reminders.

I personally like meeting people in person and dating the old way (even though that has a high likelihood of ghosting as well, but then I'm an easy person to ghost).
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Old 11-09-2018, 05:41 PM
 
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I wish there was more accountability in relationships. People should tell someone "I'm not interested." The inability to do this indicates a lack of backbone.

No, no one should be forced into continuing an involvement they don't want, but if they refuse to even communicate they aren't interested, I think a dating site should have a policy banning people who do this too many times.
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Old 11-09-2018, 07:05 PM
 
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I wish there was more accountability in relationships. People should tell someone "I'm not interested." The inability to do this indicates a lack of backbone.

No, no one should be forced into continuing an involvement they don't want, but if they refuse to even communicate they aren't interested, I think a dating site should have a policy banning people who do this too many times.
Seeing as I've already banned online dating...

Yeah, I don't like ghosting. Unfortunately, this is a part of dating these days...
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Old 11-09-2018, 07:13 PM
 
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I wish there was more accountability in relationships. People should tell someone "I'm not interested." The inability to do this indicates a lack of backbone.

No, no one should be forced into continuing an involvement they don't want, but if they refuse to even communicate they aren't interested, I think a dating site should have a policy banning people who do this too many times.
Yeah, but I mean, if you haven't even met yet...? Wouldn't it be weird to make some official breakup proclamation or apology because you exchanged 3 VMs and weren't that interested? So unnecessary, IMO.

In the old days, so to speak, if you talked to a guy a few times in the phone and/or went out once or twice and then one of you just sort of didn't call back, or it fizzled, nobody freaked or called it ghosting. We called it not very interested. And yes, it absolutely happened.
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Old 11-10-2018, 09:03 AM
 
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Yeah, but I mean, if you haven't even met yet...? Wouldn't it be weird to make some official breakup proclamation or apology because you exchanged 3 VMs and weren't that interested? So unnecessary, IMO.

In the old days, so to speak, if you talked to a guy a few times in the phone and/or went out once or twice and then one of you just sort of didn't call back, or it fizzled, nobody freaked or called it ghosting. We called it not very interested. And yes, it absolutely happened.
I know right? It's not like blowing someone off is something new. lol. People are way too sensitive these days. I know of someone who was "ghosted" after a three year exclusive relationship. Now THAT is harsh.
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Old 11-10-2018, 09:13 AM
 
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People don’t just quit responding because they “forgot” and need a reminder. If they’re messsaging at a dating site and they lose interest, or were only trying to be polite by responding in the first place, they don’t need their mom to continually remind them to “be nice, and answer the man.” Maybe the other person isn’t appealing?

It says the Bot will go through the other persons profile and “suggest something for you to talk about.” So... can I just go out with the Bot then, since he’s the one with appropriate/basic conversational skills?
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I would NOT sign up if they did something like that, it's weird.
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Old 11-10-2018, 10:36 AM
 
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I wish there were more accountability in relationships. People should tell someone "I'm not interested." The inability to do this indicates a lack of backbone.
I agree- one guy I liked "ghosted" me after the second date. I got the message but a simple "I enjoyed our meetings but I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship" would have been nice. I suppose people don't do that because they're afraid the recipient will respond angrily, defensively, whatever.

Match already has the ability to generate "canned" messages. If you and a person you're interested in are both, say, into travel, it brings up a box with, "I see you're into travel. What places are on your bucket list?" I ignore any canned messages I get from guys. If you can't even send me an original note, that's not a good sign.
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Old 11-10-2018, 10:42 AM
 
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I agree- one guy I liked "ghosted" me after the second date. I got the message but a simple "I enjoyed our meetings but I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship" would have been nice. I suppose people don't do that because they're afraid the recipient will respond angrily, defensively, whatever.

Match already has the ability to generate "canned" messages. If you and a person you're interested in are both, say, into travel, it brings up a box with, "I see you're into travel. What places are on your bucket list?" I ignore any canned messages I get from guys. If you can't even send me an original note, that's not a good sign.
I think that is something that a lot of men might be more comfortable with - a more technical approach. But yeah more women could get turned off by the impersonal nature of a canned response.
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Old 11-10-2018, 03:52 PM
 
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I know right? It's not like blowing someone off is something new. lol. People are way too sensitive these days. I know of someone who was "ghosted" after a three year exclusive relationship. Now THAT is harsh.
That's heartbreaking...
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