Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
My personal code was not to have sex with anyone unless it was exclusive.
Exclusive didn't mean we made any kind of lifetime commitment, it was just an agreement not to date others while we saw how things went with us.
Even without "the talk", after a couple months of sexual activity, I would feel a bit betrayed if I learned my sex partner were actively seeking other dates. I'd most likely end it at that point.
But I am in the minority, I think.
This raises a very good question.
OP, if the woman you're currently sleeping with had told you she doesn't have sex without exclusivity, what would you have done? Would have have continued to date her, until you decided if she was the one for you, or would you have dropped her, and moved on to look for an easier mark?
He's making assumptions; she's making assumptions.
Not everyone is a super efficient, by-the-book dating machine. This subforum wouldn't exist if they were.
Right? Strictly by the rules! Sex only after exclusivity. Then when he makes that weird face the whole time, you can’t get out of your head, or finishes first by talking baby talk and wants to call you mommy... oh well! Exclusivity with kinda weird guy who doesn’t really do it for you, happily ever after! Let’s go build that dream house.
FYI everyone. We’re both still single. Aka not exclusive.
Uh huh. You said that.
But you are operating on two different levels, based on how you characterized your assumption of her feelings about you, and that's unfair of you regardless of your status.
FYI everyone. We’re both still single. Aka not exclusive.
If that's true, and you feel you're both on the same page in that regard, then you should have no qualms in telling her, that you're planning a first date with a new woman off OLD. Since she's (according to your understanding) ok with it, you have no reason to hold back that information.
At what point in a dating relationship do you stop dating other people or seeking other relationships.
Being exclusive is about WANTING to be exclusive generally-- and with THEM in particular.
How many hours has it been since you last bumped uglies?
Some folks will have a 2 hour window and others will go for weeks.
How much time are you willing to accept for the lapse period?
I don’t understand why the OP needs this board to justify what he is set on doing. So what? Are you trying to prove that women have a different opinion on this than men? You can see that’s not the case.
Go ahead and get with this second woman. It doesn’t matter what anyone else believes. This is your life, your weenie. Stop playing the martyr.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Inquiring minds want to know.
