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yes, call and/or text everyday. its not hard to just send a good morning text. I dont feel it is necessary to be constantly engaged but a quick check in is part of being in a relationship.
If you are feeling suffocated or have lost interest i can see how it can feel like a chore.
Do I need a break? Well that depends. If I feel super secure in the relationship, then I will want a break sometimes. If I don't feel super secure, then I don't want a break.
I always kind of detested talking on the phone so the advent of unlimited text messaging was like a ray of sunshine for me. And yes, I pretty much recv. multiple texts throughout the day. Send...not so much, but I keep up my end.
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Almost. My partner often shuts off her phone Sundays. She is a small business owner of a place that is open 7 days a week, and she takes one day of her time to keep her sanity.
However. My boyfriend and I live together, but have separate quarters in the house, and work different schedules. So we are not waking up or going to bed together, sometimes we don't even cross paths all day. But on days like that, he gets home very late from work and I'm already in bed, and we have an arrangement where I leave my little LED fairy lights on in my room (dim enough for me to sleep) and he will come to my room for a bit of sleepy snuggles, just to have that little bit of daily contact. I might not be "with it" enough to have much of a conversation or do much other than mumble and drowse with my head on his shoulder, but "Physical Touch" is his love language, and that contact, even 10 minutes of it, is meaningful.
Because he is an older guy and not that into the whole "constantly plugged into tech" thing, he actually leave his cell phone at home most of the time, and we don't communicate electronically unless we really have a reason to. So most days we don't. Weeks can probably go by without us needing to text or call each other.
Of course the other side of that coin, is that when we are actually together, we're giving each other attention, we aren't distracted by phones. I know people who text each other constantly when they're apart, but give one another no real engagement or attention when they're together. Or maybe they are sitting side by side texting each other instead of just talking. I'll pass on all that.
My husband and I call each other probably maybe at least 3 times during the day and then we see each other in the evening. We kinda have a routine.
If I miss the routine he will ask me if I am taking a "me" day or if I'm busy.
He asks because he wants make sure he didn't do anything wrong! LOL
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