What Do You Think My Close Female Friend Means By This (marry, woman)

[Antwuan]

Ok I have a female friend who I’m very close to & have been seeing/talking to for a while we have a strong connection/bond. We have talked a little bit about a potential committed/monogamous relationship in the future and seeing where it goes. She did say to me she just doesn’t want to hold me back if we get into a relationship. What do you think she means by that?

Also this is a different woman than the other one I talked about in another thread.

[hawaiiancoconut]

lol She doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with you?

Best you ask her exactly what she meant, and spare us the guessing.

[gentlearts]

It sounds like she’ll go out with you until she finds somebody better, so you should keep looking also.

[rego00123]

She’s trying to make it seem as though she’s “the problem” to let your interests and the whole question go away with as little friction as possible.

TLDR: she isn’t interested and she doesn’t want to start anything with you for her own reasons.

[Ruth4Truth]

Ask her why she thinks that you being in a relationship with her would "hold you back". Hold you back from what?

We can't possibly know what she's thinking, OP. If. you're considering a relationship with her, and you two are as close as you say you are, surely you're able to communicate with her about this? If you can't, and feel the need to resort to consulting strangers and reading tea leaves, maybe you two aren't as ready for a committed relationship as you think.

[redplum33]

I think it might mean that she'd like a relationship with you, but (for whatever reason) she knows she wouldn't ever marry you. Basically, she's concerned that she'll be essentially wasting your time and preventing you from finding someone else. Just a guess. You really should ask her what that means.

[elnina]

If she is such a close friend - why don't you ask her? Close friends should be able to talk about everything.
Communication 101.

[K12144]

Either she doesn't want to be in a monogamous relationship and doesn't want to say so, or she figures you're going to find someone you like better and either be out the door or wishing you could be but sticking around to be "kind" to her and because you committed to the relationship while wanting to be with someone else, feeling like she's holding you back. IOW, she may think she's just something to do for now/this whole thing is going to be sort of casual, rather than that you truly want to be with her/care about her, and someday something "better" will come along.

As for asking her... you could ask until the cows come home but it won't mean she'll feel like she can be truthful if that's the case. Especially if she thinks how she feels is unreasonable or will make you feel guilty, so she should keep it to herself. It's rarely a good idea to admit your insecurities to others.

[Lovehound]

Like Coconut and others said, obviously the woman does not want to commit. That seems like the only likely explanation to me.

[4+3]

Not enough information given to figure out what is meant. Best to ask directly.