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There seems to be a growing trend of "engaged" couples who seem to have no intention of getting married. One couple I know says they won't be getting married for several years and by that they mean 10 or 15, but a few I know have said flat out they will never actually get married. I'm not sure I understand the point of this. If you don't intend to marry then what exactly are you engaged in?
I guess it's not so much why they don't get married because I know sometimes people have very complicated reasons that they can't but sometimes it's as simple as they don't actually want to be married. I get that and I respect that but when that's the case why the charade of engagement?
It it just about labeling so you have better sounding titles than boyfriend or girlfriend?
True story...knew a couple that were 'engaged' for almost 20 years.....got married and split before the year was out.
Understand, they didn't live together as an engaged couple so that can make a big difference
My old boss dragged out her engagement for years. She and her now husband have been together for something like 40 years, but they didn't get married until like 30 years in because they didn't want to have to deal with the big family wedding they were culturally expected to have. It was a source of great amusement to their friends.
I’m with the OP. I don’t understand long engagements. In my book, it’s fish or cut bait, whatever that means.
If you’re planning to get married, get it together and do it. A few months is okay if you want to plan a family shindig or you’re waiting to be sure it’s a good choice. Otherwise, it’s just lame.
It's not a trend. You know a few people making odd choices.
Actually, I've noticed this too. And I too, don't really get it. I've even seen it on here. There was a poster who had a fiance who treated her like crap, but her reasoning was "At least I'm engaged to him, and she's not."
And I work with a lady who was engaged to her man for YEARS, and only decided to marry a couple of years ago because of social security and benefits and such.
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