Is it about sex only? (women, attracted, meaning, looking)
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He just texted me that we should plan to get together in the next week or so..... Ok, so do i just let him suggest when and where and see how that date goes....???
In fact, how do I respond to that???
What do YOU want to do? How do you want things to be different from yesterday?
Back to your original question: Does he only want sex?
Again I say yes. In my experience, this is not how a man conducts himself on a first date when he wants something long lasting. Most men know if you sleep with someone the first date, the dynamics are so thrown off that a relationship usually does not result from it. It really is too soon to have sex the day of meeting and be able to develop a solid foundation for a relationship after it.
Whatever you decide, please please please do not have sex with him until you discuss being in a committed exclusive relationship first.
I promise you that if have sex with him on date 2, 3 or 4, and don't ask before about being in a relationship, after that night he will contact you once or twice more, and then move on to the next girl.
Ok, I get it, and I am not desperate for sex, so yeah, I can wait.
What do YOU want to do? How do you want things to be different from yesterday?
I want to go on a regular date (dinner maybe, maybe something active, even drinks are fine) and then just observe his actions. If he asks me over, I say no, and see if he ghosts me afterwards... That would be my plan...IDK, maybe I should know better
I want to go on a regular date (dinner maybe, maybe something active, even drinks are fine) and then just observe his actions. If he asks me over, I say no, and see if he ghosts me afterwards... That would be my plan...IDK, maybe I should know better
That's fine. Give him a chance. I personally would leave it up to him to pick the place and time. That will tell you a lot.
I want to go on a regular date (dinner maybe, maybe something active, even drinks are fine) and then just observe his actions. If he asks me over, I say no, and see if he ghosts me afterwards... That would be my plan...IDK, maybe I should know better
Then just say something like, "Sounds great. I'd love to go eat somewhere and maybe [insert activity here - whatever fun thing people do where you live]. Where do you feel like going?"
I do think you need to at least make a suggestion, and I think you should be specific, because if you leave it open to his interpretation, he'll probably just wanna make out in your house again.
I think maybe you should have a date where drinking isn't involved.
It's a little surprising drinking was involved after your breakfast date -
Like, an afternoon hike.
Drinking every time you see someone kind of obscures the reality of the two personalities.
I know, he asked what we can do, I would like to spend more time with you. I couldnt come up with anything. It was also raining, and nothing really in the area to do (we were more in the suburbs than the city), so we were grateful at least one bar was open for drinks.
I think that is a perfect reply. Good luck and please post an update
I will def update Thank you
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