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OK it's just a phrase...but I'm sick of hearing it.
To me it makes men sound weak, as if they can be led around by the nose. Like the wife calls on the shots, makes all the rules in the relationship.
Maybe it's just me, but I think the phrase is belittling, honestly.
What about happy husband, happy wife?
IS there a comparable phrase to the reverse? Happy hubby...something-or-other?
I totally agree.
There are some women who do control the home with their moods.
I have never been one for that. It would be like buying the screaming child the toy so they will be happy.
It makes me cringe to here a guy utter the phrase.
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OK it's just a phrase...but I'm sick of hearing it.
To me it makes men sound weak, as if they can be led around by the nose. Like the wife calls on the shots, makes all the rules in the relationship.
Maybe it's just me, but I think the phrase is belittling, honestly.
What about happy husband, happy wife?
IS there a comparable phrase to the reverse? Happy hubby...something-or-other?
I truly think “happy wife, happy life” is a phrase encouraging the excuse of domineering and bad behavior by women towards their husbands. No I’m not kidding.
My FIL always said that. Ironically, he was the over bearing, demanding one. But he always treated my MIL like a queen. She is the laid back go with the flow person. They've been married for 60 years and still going strong.
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I think the phrase rings a bell with people because most people understand that the woman sets the tone of the home - not only if she is a stay-at-home homemaker/mom/whatever - but just that women tend to be nurturers and creative - and can make a home warm and inviting (or not).
Some men can do this, as well, but it is typically a female thing to do.
If you have a warm home - full of comforts - then if the wife gets pissed off - or is unhappy in some way, then the home environment will suffer - and all who live there will feel it.
I had a very mean mom and I know that when she was happy, then things were a little bit brighter in the home, but when she was not happy, everyone suffered.
If you have a warm home - full of comforts - then if the wife gets pissed off - or is unhappy in some way, then the home environment will suffer - and all who live there will feel it.
I had a very mean mom and I know that when she was happy, then things were a little bit brighter in the home, but when she was not happy, everyone suffered.
And, as an example, what does that mean for the people who accept that kind of behavior?
I'm just not the kind of person to accept "oh you're not happy, so you're going to make my day miserable also" kind of person.
When a guy giggles as he says, "happy wife happy life," I want to ask him, do you ever get what YOU want?" (And, no, I don't mean intimacy needs.) I just see that guy as a wuss (sp?). He may not be. But that's just how it comes off (to me.)
I'm sure the wife one applies to all kinds of situations. Ones where she is a screaming loony if she doesn't get her way, and the awesome wife who treats the husband great, and the happier she is, the more joyful the home.
I wouldn't let it bug ya.
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And, as an example, what does that mean for the people who accept that kind of behavior?
I'm just not the kind of person to accept "oh you're not happy, so you're going to make my day miserable also" kind of person.
When a guy giggles as he says, "happy wife happy life," I want to ask him, do you ever get what YOU want?" (And, no, I don't mean intimacy needs.) I just see that guy as a wuss (sp?). He may not be. But that's just how it comes off (to me.)
If you see marriage as a power struggle you are best suited to stay single.
There's no reason both people in the relationship shouldn't be happy. If a man loves his wife he will want her to be happy. If a woman loves her husband she will want him to be happy. Compromise may be necessary. But when a wife isn't happy, or a husband isn't happy the relationship will suffer and neither will be happy.
You are trying to give an old adage more meaning than it has. Here is another for you...... Marry in haste, repent at leisure. Or, a son is a son until he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter all of his life.
You are trying to give an old adage more meaning than it has.
Maybe if I heard as many wives say, "happy husband, happy home" as much as I year the "happy wife" phrase I wouldn't hate hearing the happy wife phrase...which I just hear all the time.
And, as an example, what does that mean for the people who accept that kind of behavior?
I'm just not the kind of person to accept "oh you're not happy, so you're going to make my day miserable also" kind of person.
When a guy giggles as he says, "happy wife happy life," I want to ask him, do you ever get what YOU want?" (And, no, I don't mean intimacy needs.) I just see that guy as a wuss (sp?). He may not be. But that's just how it comes off (to me.)
Hmmm - I don't often hear men giggle...but if I did, my guess is that he's saying it in a patronizing manner. That it's more like "just keep the li'l lady happy and you can do what you really want to". So to me it's more of a superficial kind of thing - like just tell her what she wants to hear, meanwhile, carry on and she'll never know the difference.
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