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I am 8 days out of my last relationship and i know what its like to miss someone like crazy. The guy and i have had mini breakups in the past and it had a lot to do with outside factors, but we always came back together because we had a genuine connection and love for each other, but the old issues still existed. This last time has been different, i know its time for the merry go round to end. I miss him everyday, and he misses me too, he was expecting this to blow over but i'm forcing myself to move forward. I joined a gym, i started reading new book and every time i want to message him about something that is going on in my day or something funny that has happened, i message one of my other friends instead. If i completely honest I don't know if our story has ended, but for now the chapter is closed, he needs time to focus on himself, we both need time to heal.
If shes asked you to leave her alone then you should respect her wishes. If she wants you back she will come to you.
Sorry to hear about this. Hopefully, this puts that other vicious cycle out of its misery, lol. The gym is good for stress management.
OP--I understand hurting, but she's made things clear. The best way to cut off the "power" she has over you is to not contact her. As you're tempted to contact her, STOP and ask yourself how many more times you want to go through this with her.
Honestly, if this relationship has not worked by this time, it never will. Breaking up and getting back together so many times in a relatively short time period is a clear indication of this.
One other thing: she is not "my girl" and never was. Semantics maybe...
My girl pretty much told me we needed to quit talking. It’s been 48 hours with no contact and I miss her like crazy. I want to text her so bad I can’t stand it. If there is any way to read my previous posts that is the situation I am in. Advice? Should I contact her or continue to hold out? I usually come running back like a puppy by now. Do you think she expects me to contact her?
Leave it alone. The #1 rule of all relationships is that the one who wants less out of the relationship calls the shots, not the one who wants more. If she wants to go NC, then let her go, move on with your own life, and let her make the 1st move. You contact her, she's just going to pull back even more than she already is.
I am 8 days out of my last relationship and i know what its like to miss someone like crazy. The guy and i have had mini breakups in the past and it had a lot to do with outside factors, but we always came back together because we had a genuine connection and love for each other, but the old issues still existed. This last time has been different, i know its time for the merry go round to end. I miss him everyday, and he misses me too, he was expecting this to blow over but i'm forcing myself to move forward. I joined a gym, i started reading new book and every time i want to message him about something that is going on in my day or something funny that has happened, i message one of my other friends instead. If i completely honest I don't know if our story has ended, but for now the chapter is closed, he needs time to focus on himself, we both need time to heal.
If shes asked you to leave her alone then you should respect her wishes. If she wants you back she will come to you.
That's because separations and NC are only effective when BOTH people make an honest effort to address and work on themselves and their respective issues and behavior and how those had a detrimental effect on the relationship. And your first conversations need to be laying out everything you discovered about yourselves and how you are going to handle those areas that caused tension if you are going to be going forward with the relationship. Clearly one or both of you failed to do that work. A lot of people fail to do that, that is why so many relationships fall apart.
BTDT, through two NC periods that were 3 years and the last one was 2 years. So far, we're 7 months back in and things are going well, because we had extensive conversations about the relationship before we finally saw each other face to face 3 months ago. We both had things to work on.
My girl pretty much told me we needed to quit talking. It’s been 48 hours with no contact and I miss her like crazy. I want to text her so bad I can’t stand it. If there is any way to read my previous posts that is the situation I am in. Advice? Should I contact her or continue to hold out? I usually come running back like a puppy by now. Do you think she expects me to contact her?
Doesn't matter what she expects. Don't grovel. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? You want them to stay with you out of pity? Get doing some things that will keep you busy. Don't think about the things you like about her. Focus on her undesirable characteristics.
Learn to like your own company. It will make you more confident and a better boyfriend for someone else.
Doesn't matter what she expects. Don't grovel. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? You want them to stay with you out of pity? Get doing some things that will keep you busy. Don't think about the things you like about her. Focus on her undesirable characteristics.
Learn to like your own company. It will make you more confident and a better boyfriend for someone else.
This is the post that needs to be on a couple of other threads.
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The gym is good for stress management. 
