Never Had A Real Girlfriend, Constantly Rejected (dating, marry, women)
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I am a 21 year old male that's never had a real girlfriend in his life. I've talked to lots of girls both while still in high school and since then, but I've never made a real connection with any of them, and those that I really seemed to like rejected me.
Obviously I was not only disappointed but frustrated, both emotionally and sexually. Eventually when I was 19 I had to do something about my sexual frustration, so I visited an escort and lost my virginity, because I didn't want to enter my 20's a virgin.
That's the solution I've been using since then. Don't get me wrong, I don't view what's going on as some kind of twisted relationship, only an outlet for my sexual needs. It's not emotionally satisfying at all.
This also leads me to the bigger thought of "Why don't "normal" women accept me for who I am?" When I try to interact with girls both over texting and in real life, there never seems to be a connection with them and I don't know what to do. I'm fairly happy with who I am, but that doesn't seem to attract "normal" women, what should I do?
I am a 21 year old male that's never had a real girlfriend in his life. I've talked to lots of girls both while still in high school and since then, but I've never made a real connection with any of them, and those that I really seemed to like rejected me.
Obviously I was not only disappointed but frustrated, both emotionally and sexually. Eventually when I was 19 I had to do something about my sexual frustration, so I visited an escort and lost my virginity, because I didn't want to enter my 20's a virgin.
That's the solution I've been using since then. Don't get me wrong, I don't view what's going on as some kind of twisted relationship, only an outlet for my sexual needs. It's not emotionally satisfying at all.
This also leads me to the bigger thought of "Why don't "normal" women accept me for who I am?" When I try to interact with girls both over texting and in real life, there never seems to be a connection with them and I don't know what to do. I'm fairly happy with who I am, but that doesn't seem to attract "normal" women, what should I do?
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First off, you are only 21, you likely have a long life ahead of you.
Second off...without any details, I can't really say anything that may help with your challenge.
It could be anything. It could be the area you live in, the shape you are in and how the culture responds.
One thing I can say is that relationships and a girlfriend are not guaranteed. You may live a long time before finding a girlfriend. Even then, you are not guaranteed a girlfriend. You can study and practice. At the same time, find fulfillment in something other than a relationship and just meet and talk to people just to talk to people and build your circle.
Don't feel bad about your situation, there are quite a few people who live to be in their thirties, forties, even fifties before having a girlfriend. Then there are some who live full lives and go without.
First off, you are only 21, you likely have a long life ahead of you.
Second off...without any details, I can't really say anything that may help with your challenge.
It could be anything. It could be the area you live in, the shape you are in and how the culture responds.
One thing I can say is that relationships and a girlfriend are not guaranteed. You may live a long time before finding a girlfriend. Even then, you are not guaranteed a girlfriend. You can study and practice. At the same time, find fulfillment in something other than a relationship and just meet and talk to people just to talk to people and build your circle.
Don't feel bad about your situation, there are quite a few people who live to be in their thirties, forties, even fifties before having a girlfriend. Then there are some who live full lives and go without.
I'm not in bad shape physically, I'm 6'1 and 185 pounds, no bad acne or anything like that. I'd say my problem is my social skills, but since dating isn't a "clear cut" thing, I have trouble understanding the gray areas.
Stop visiting prostitutes, it will make you feel worse and not better. It will hurt you in the long run.
I wouldn't say it makes me feel worse, as it relieves my sexual desires, but it leaves me feeling somewhat empty as there's no emotional connection. I feel incapable of connecting to normal girls, and I feel like in order to do that society wants me to pretend to be something I'm not. At least my dealings with prostitutes were honest, she wanted money and I wanted sex.
So do many women, who go to college to get their MRS degrees.
Or beautiful women who marry rich, but decrepit men.
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