What to do when online dating doesn't work?

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by Vanillaskye

I know I have time and I'm going to try to do what I can, but I don't want to have to wait until I'm like 35 to attract a healthy relationship.

No one wants to wait while we put in the work. Why would we? But, often that's the way life unfolds. You can only control you and your actions. Relationships are two sided. There has to be a certain amount of letting go of control knowing that.

[MrRational]

Originally Posted by Vanillaskye

...but I don't want to have to wait until I'm like 35 to attract a healthy relationship.

That shouldn't be a problem.
I suspect that the problem is an expectation of/for THE (singular) one and forever healthy relationship.

Lower/broaden your entry level standards. Allow yourself to have some "meanwhile" fun.
Perhaps one of these might become more but it doesn't really matter either way.

Being out there doing fun and interesting things that you like is the best way to find others
who also want to be out there and doing similar fun and interesting things.

[nicole984]

You just haven't met the right person yet and it is not so easy at all. I suggest you to not give up. Maybe you should change the dating site or just to specify more detailed on your profile for what kind of person you are looking for and on that way you will increase the chances to be contacted from a person who meets your criteria. Online dating is the best way for it so you just have to be patient and to not give up.

[DaBurgh]

Online dating is like shopping
Go To a store and pick out something you may like, and keep it in the back of your mind as a possibility
Go on to the next store and see something you think you like more, so forget the original item..and then another store, another item etc