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People who read my previous post know that I met someone who laid out the relationship card early on in dating, but things drastically went south after sex. I went home after having sex, He didn’t text to check on me. When I texted, he said he felt asleep, and said that he “had fun.” It was like a big “ouch” when I heard those two words...I didn’t say anything back. The next day, around evening time, he texted saying he had a rough day... I was still emotionally traumatized from how he acted after sex, so I still didn’t text anything back. Then he never text me again after that. So I don’t know if technically I ghosted him?
Anyway, after 10 more days of MIA, thanksgiving came around, I felt I was ready to talk about the breakup, so i reached out and texted” happy thanksgiving”. He never replied.. was it justifiable for him to do that? Or am being ghosted?
I’m ready to move on, I feel like I just need a closure. It bugs me that we never said anything.. I want to send a last message to politely just say goodbye. It just for my own emotional health..in the last message, I’ll just honestly say I’m bothered that we never said goodbyes, and wish him the best..
Also, the way we chatted was through a chatting app, so there’s a small chance he’s not using the app and didn’t see that I texted him( although very unlikely) so I decided to text him over the phone to make sure he sees it. (We never texted each other over the phone before) would this be too intrusive?
What did you expect him to say or do? Maybe it was fun. Did you enjoy sex with him? Basically to me it seems that you took it so far out of context he just moved on.
I’m still not sure what traumatized you so badly.
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What did you expect him to say or do? Maybe it was fun. Did you enjoy sex with him? Basically to me it seems that you took it so far out of context he just moved on.
I’m still not sure what traumatized you so badly.
Frankly, I'd be incredibly traumatized if I had sex with a guy and he never tried to contact me again. God.
My guess is, that's what the OP is feeling.
That would be very very difficult to recover from.
He did try to contact her though... she ignored him. Maybe he’s not replying now because he’s “incredibly traumatized”.
Also, how is texting someone one on their cell intrusive, but having sex is not? You’d think a girl would have the right to send a message on a phone if she’s been naked with someone.
I don’t see how another message to him could make you feel better. What you want is a do-over, but that’s not gonna happen.
If you really want to feel better, actually block him on all forms of communication. Then start to forget him.
I honestly don’t want a do over. I realize he and I are not very compatible. Also I can’t be with someone I constantly feel the uncertainty. But I do feel the way we ended was too abrupt and it just doesn’t sit right with me...
I honestly don’t want a do over. I realize he and I are not very compatible. Also I can’t be with someone I constantly feel the uncertainty. But I do feel the way we ended was too abrupt and it just doesn’t sit right with me...
I meant a do-over for the good-bye.
You are frustrated because you can’t speak your piece. I get it. But I would not demean myself again by sending yet another message for him to ignore.
You want the "Final Word"
What is the point in just "politely saying good bye" out of nowhere? He never replied to your Thanksgiving greeting.
He may think you are just a joke if you do that.
Basically you still have feelings for him, but in reality he has already moved on from you.
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