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Here's an interesting turn of the tables, met this mid-40s woman that still lives with her mother. I had asked her if her mother was ill or something and she says she's never lived alone and doesn't like to live by herself.
She is a successful private school teacher, so obviously does well financially , but chooses to never live alone. As a man, this really doesn't bother me, but I'm guessing this was a man, same situation...would this be a turn off for a 40-something woman?
Here's an interesting turn of the tables, met this mid-40s woman that still lives with her mother. I had asked her if her mother was ill or something and she says she's never lived alone and doesn't like to live by herself.
She is a successful private school teacher, so obviously does well financially , but chooses to never live alone. As a man, this really doesn't bother me, but I'm guessing this was a man, same situation...would this be a turn off for a 40-something woman?
If he’s living with his parents for the same reason she gave you....yes, that would be a turn off.
Why is he afraid to be independent? FWIW, I’m not being sexist because I wonder the same about the woman you reference.
I have a very traditional son who knew he wanted someone who would be a SAHM. Fine with me but I was afraid he'd choose someone so sheltered she'd never lived on her own, which I think strengthens you and is part of the maturation process. He married a wonderful young woman who had moved from Nowhere. Iowa where her parents lived to the Big City, gotten a 2-year business degree, and worked managing inventory at a car dealership till their first child was born. She'd lived with roommates (female) to keep the costs down. I found that very reassuring. It's been 5 years and so far I can say he chose well.
One concern I'd have, also with either sex- when I got DS into therapy after my divorce, he was 12 and the therapist cautioned that it's possible in one-parent, one-child relationships that they become too emotionally "sticky"- the two of you against the world, no room to let anyone else in. That may be why she still hasn't married at age 40.
By the way, my guess is that private school teachers are not rolling in money- they don't get paid all that well but do it because they prefer the teaching experience- typically the parents are very involved and disruptive kids are expelled. The classes may be smaller and there may be entrance requirements, so it can be a much better job.
I have a very traditional son who knew he wanted someone who would be a SAHM. Fine with me but I was afraid he'd choose someone so sheltered she'd never lived on her own, which I think strengthens you and is part of the maturation process. He married a wonderful young woman who had moved from Nowhere. Iowa where her parents lived to the Big City, gotten a 2-year business degree, and worked managing inventory at a car dealership till their first child was born. She'd lived with roommates (female) to keep the costs down. I found that very reassuring. It's been 5 years and so far I can say he chose well.
One concern I'd have, also with either sex- when I got DS into therapy after my divorce, he was 12 and the therapist cautioned that it's possible in one-parent, one-child relationships that they become too emotionally "sticky"- the two of you against the world, no room to let anyone else in. That may be why she still hasn't married at age 40.
By the way, my guess is that private school teachers are not rolling in money- they don't get paid all that well but do it because they prefer the teaching experience- typically the parents are very involved and disruptive kids are expelled. The classes may be smaller and there may be entrance requirements, so it can be a much better job.
Correction, it's a preparatory school. Christian-based. I guess that's a flavor of private school? Parents pay the big bucks to put their kids in school, so a teacher in these schools as opposed to public schools are the better option.
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Correction, it's a preparatory school. Christian-based. I guess that's a flavor of private school? Parents pay the big bucks to put their kids in school, so a teacher in these schools as opposed to public schools are the better option.
These schools usually have dismal salaries for their teachers. Significantly worse than public schools. Though the working conditions can be much nicer. It's a trade off.
Correction, it's a preparatory school. Christian-based. I guess that's a flavor of private school? Parents pay the big bucks to put their kids in school, so a teacher in these schools as opposed to public schools are the better option.
I'm still guessing it doesn't pay all that well. Most of my education was in parochial schools and I sent DS to a military boarding school. They cost big bucks because they get nothing from the taxpayers. Many of my teachers were new ones trying to get a start in the field; many of DS's teachers were retired military so had other sources of income such as a military pension.
My concern would be that if she ever got into a relationship, she wouldn't want to leave mom alone so she'd be part of the package
Depending on the people involved, that may not be true
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