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If there is one thing about relationships, of any kind, I've learned it's that you cannot assume what another is thinking or feeling. You are not a mind reader. As a corollary to that, you also cannot expect another to read your mind. That's why honest and forthright communication is so important.
You want to know what he's thinking? You ask. You want him to know how you feel. You tell him. Quit playing mind games with yourself and potential partners. Learn those things I mentioned above. Life and relationships are much easier.
If it was me and I didn't want this to end, I'd CALL him and let him know that. Personally I'd say that I'm thinking things are kind of messed up because of some misunderstanding while texting. I'd also let him know that I would love to talk in person.
Because I never really wanted to end things with him.
I am upset now and I don’t see a way back due to how he is treating me.
You don’t want to end things but you don’t want to be with him anymore?
He didn’t text you back when you thought he should have and when he did he was being tongue-in-cheek with the “worship” bit on a Sunday morning. In response, you:
-Refused his apology
-Rebuked him for not responding when and how you wanted him to
-Played passive-aggressive by pretending nothing is wrong even though clearly there is (you wouldn’t be here otherwise)
-Are apparently expecting him to guess how and why you’re upset without input from you, and also to make up for it, or to end things of his own volition. (Why do you want him to do that and not you? Could it be that if he were to end it, you would then have a dose of righteous self-pity over being dumped or ghosted?). You’re not exercising your own agency in communicating with him to address the problem. Apparently the responsibility for guessing, diagnosing, and ameliorating the issue, one way or the other, falls all on him
That’s how I would see it. And I wouldn’t like it.
Instead of wondering what's going on with him, just ask. Ask him if he wants to break up, ask him if he's doing a slow fade, just get it over with. You flat out ask instead of dancing around the issue. Then you get an answer , then you know.
Also, never expect someone to be a mind reader. If you are feeling sad or unhappy about something, just tell them..... lay it on the line. It's called mature behavior and it really works well.
If there is one thing about relationships, of any kind, I've learned it's that you cannot assume what another is thinking or feeling. You are not a mind reader. As a corollary to that, you also cannot expect another to read your mind. That's why honest and forthright communication is so important.
You want to know what he's thinking? You ask. You want him to know how you feel. You tell him. Quit playing mind games with yourself and potential partners. Learn those things I mentioned above. Life and relationships are much easier.
If it was me and I didn't want this to end, I'd CALL him and let him know that. Personally I'd say that I'm thinking things are kind of messed up because of some misunderstanding while texting. I'd also let him know that I would love to talk in person.
But I’ve asked him today what was wrong and he totally ignored me.
So how can I communicate with someone who is not willing to talk you.
I’ve woukve to tell him what’s bothering me.
I also called yesterday to talk to properly but he messaged me instead which kinda put me off expressing myself.
Anyways I feel like giving him piece my of mine,
Like seriously who does that.
He literally just ignored me.
If he wants to end things, why can’t he just say so.
After this I don’t even wanna be with him anymore but at least have the decency to just to end it properly.
I did try to talk with him over the phone yesterday but instead he got back to me with and I got annoyed and said “never mind” then he asked me “is everything okay” and I said “everything is fine with me “ that’s was our last exchange.
He has not checked in this morning.
The thing is we normally see each other either Tuesday or Wednesday and he has not asked to see me.
And I don’t want to chase him and ask to see him since I called him yesterday and he didn’t seem bothered.
Be honest and say hey...everything is no ok with me. Im actually really annoyed with you because...it will probably be fixed in 2 seconds if you actually communicate
Be honest and say hey...everything is no ok with me. Im actually really annoyed with you because...it will probably be fixed in 2 seconds if you actually communicate
It’s too late now.
It’s all done, it’s over
Thanks though, you actually gave me nice advice but too late.
It’s too late now.
It’s all done, it’s over
Thanks though, you actually gave me nice advice but too late.
What do you mean too late? Rrah gave you this exact same advice earlier! The poster said to communicate and be honest. Do you know what your own feelings are? Why do you think you couldn't communicate them directly?
It’s too late now.
It’s all done, it’s over
Thanks though, you actually gave me nice advice but too late.
Do you understand what passive aggressive is now?
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