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youve gotten some good advice so i'll just pop in that the correct terminology in this case is chaste.
a women can have sexual intercourse 100 times and still be a virgin so long as she doesnt get pregnant (obviously saying a man is a virgin would be like saying a chair is a virgin).
prior to modern medicine and medical procedures, a women usually only had 1-shot to have a baby (think julius ceasers mother -- c-section) therefore her virgin womb became valuable to men who wished to raise a warrior who can take his place if he died in battle.
there were no prenatal vitamins, epidural , ob/gyn's, maturnity wards/n.i.c.u.'s ... in those times.
if you don't feel comfortable answering, yr intuition might be telling you aren't ready for this kind of relationship.
is it important to you to answer this question? i would wonder why it was important to any
guy asking me, especially if it was more important info applied to me than him.
youve gotten some good advice so i'll just pop in that the correct terminology in this case is chaste.
a women can have sexual intercourse 100 times and still be a virgin so long as she doesnt get pregnant (obviously saying a man is a virgin would be like saying a chair is a virgin).
prior to modern medicine and medical procedures, a women usually only had 1-shot to have a baby (think julius ceasers mother -- c-section) therefore her virgin womb became valuable to men who wished to raise a warrior who can take his place if he died in battle.
there were no prenatal vitamins, epidural , ob/gyn's, maturnity wards/n.i.c.u.'s ... in those times.
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In what vintage stag mag did you read this BS? Lolol
...why is that anyone's business and why does she have to justify it to you?
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Originally Posted by SAAN
If you waited this long, why not just wait til you are married or someone you see yourself marrying. Some men see a virgin as a challenge or bragging rights afterwards.
Not everyone wants to get married at all. Not everyone wants to wait until they do get married.
A lot of judgment on this thread for someone else's life choices, which is not relevant to the question she asked.
...why is that anyone's business and why does she have to justify it to you?
Because she said her "busy schedule" had kept her from dating, which frankly is not good news for someone her age. I wanted to know what a 22-year-old had been so busy with. It obviously didn't bother the OP to "justify" it to me.
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A lot of judgment on this thread for someone else's life choices, which is not relevant to the question she asked.
That's what we do here. She ASKED about a life choice; we evaluate, which requires judgement, and offer suggestions.
I'm a virgin at the age of 22 and it's unrelated to religion. I'm not really set on waiting till marriage either. However, I prefer to lose it in a relationship when I'm ready.
How important is that information for guys? Will he think it's weird or ask questions about it? I'm a reserved woman when it comes to sharing personal information. Or should I just go with the flow and only say it if he figures it out.
At some point it is, but only when you feel it's important to tell him. And if it's a dealbreaker for any guy, then that's not someone you should have sex with in the first place.
Holy Mackerel! 60+ replies and NOBODY has told the OP it is possible for a gynecologist to snip the hymen using a topical anesthetic. Back in the day, this was somewhat common procedure. Physically you’re not a virgin (and don’t have to worry about any pain) but in every other respect you are.
I think there is nothing wrong with waiting for the “right guy” to do the deed with instead of jumping into bed with the first clown who shows up. 46 years afterward, I have absolutely no regrets choosing who I did, and there had been several before that who COULD have been.
I wouldn’t be telling guys right off that you’re a virgin. Wait until you have decided he is the one, and tell him then.
My personal pain story....felt like I was being cut with a broken piece of glass.
You should tell him because it might hurt a little first. If the guy is not an insensitive jerk, and hopefully you have a good picker finger so he isn't, he needs to take it slow the first time and be careful. But don't advertise it. When the time is near, talk about it then.
+1. couples should generally talk about how often they have protected/unprotected sex, what sex acts they participate in, birth-control, how often s.t.d. testing, ... when they are about to be naked with someone new so that they can make decisions about if they want to engage in risky behavior.
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