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Because she said her "busy schedule" had kept her from dating, which frankly is not good news for someone her age. I wanted to know what a 22-year-old had been so busy with. It obviously didn't bother the OP to "justify" it to me.
That's what we do here. She ASKED about a life choice; we evaluate, which requires judgement, and offer suggestions.
And again, why is it your business why she has or had not had sex at a certain point? Or whether she is dating?
And no, she didn't ask about her life choice. She asked about whether she should disclose it to people she may date in future. She was not asking whether you approve of her sex life or her dating frequency.
And again, why is it your business why she has or had not had sex at a certain point? Or whether she is dating?
OP brought it up.
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Originally Posted by K12144
And no, she didn't ask about her life choice. She asked about whether she should disclose it to people she may date in future. She was not asking whether you approve of her sex life or her dating frequency.
I didn't offer approval or disapproval, Mom. Pick a fight somewhere else.
This is exactly what I'm talking about when I say people romanticize "the moment" too much. It puts way too much pressure on two human beings.
While I have my doubts about the authenticity of the OP, it's clear she's not going to just sleep with some random guy.
However, even if the stage is set for romance, it won't always be like a movie scene. It's often unfamiliar and awkward territory. If she builds herself up for a magical loving experience on clouds while birds are singing in the background then she's really going to be disappointed when her back hurts, he's leaning on her hair, and her vajayjay makes a funny noise.
Honestly, I don't even remember my very first time. I was with a boyfriend I loved, but it was not THE moment that mattered. I DO remember many more incredibly loving, sexy and romantic times when I connected with a partner once I'd become more sexually experienced than the time I lost my virginity.
Insisting that it has to be a big deal often only leads to disappointment.
How will that help her remember the magic moment??
+1; its kinda' like your first roller-coaster ride. once youre tall enough to ride, your first time is memorable; but, after 25 years you wont remember the intricate details.
I'm laughing at the idea that I'm a virgin because I've never been pregnant. That's...not right?
+1;
o.p. got some good advice so i guess we can go on tangents. i was being kinda' obtuse based on something someone told me years ago. i was trying to research it but the only thing i found that was related was my #73 response above.
seems like somewhere in the last 1,000 years chaste ==> virgin.
By the time I got to my mid-late 20s, a virgin was a deal killer. I had no time for all the mind games.
So if a female is a virgin and/or, won't have sex with you, then she is "playing games"? How so? I don't see a game here.
And a non-virgin can refuse to have sex with someone. Just because she's had sex before, doesn't mean she's obligated to have it with every man out there who wants it.
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