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Can care less about it.. but some are nice. But not when its an expectation. Like going to a dodger game is a nice tradition. Things like religion and arranged marriages or expecting for someone to marry only certain people or develop their relationship a certain way.. not so nice..
I bet you're loads of fun at parties. It was a nice little moment in a couple's life and you have to drag in some pointless observation in order to play some weird game of oneupsmanship.
Back to the OP. I didn't ask for her father's permission, chiefly because they were in Australia. But, then again, we had a whirlwind courtship, certainly not enough time for the kind of proposal you described.
Yeah, that's why I put the "asked" in quotes. I think it was just a (very nice) formality.
Wow, that says a lot about you, he told you but not his own parents.
It does indeed, but probably not completely what you think. He is also of a different race and cultural background. He often has to assert his "independence" and set boundaries with his mother. He may have also discussed it with them in the past. Truthfully he likes my husband more than he likes me. After 7 years he's finally learning that when I state an opinion on something I don't expect my daughter or him to do what I say. While I may have had helicopter mom tendencies to an extent, he had/has a tiger mother. There's a difference.
He also works very hard at making sure he's doing the "American" thing.
It's beautiful and if anyone says otherwise they got a cold distant unfulfilled heart..... you'd have to be a real stooge to not see the absolute beauty in that scenario and to be honest I wouldn't want to know som eone that can be critical of that.
In plain speak, what an asshat.
I agree on both counts. I come to appreciate scenarios like the one you shared versus the run of the mill dysfunction of skanky women and deadbeat men that seems to have normalized in a large segment of the population.
A friend of the family has a daughter, low mid twenties. This weekend her boyfriend proposed on top of a bluff over looking the vast Pacific Ocean. He went ahead of time and asked her parents for her hand in marriage. They all agreed and the whole family planned the event. He took her up to the top of the hill overlooking the ocean and asked her to close her eyes and when she does he gets down on his knee and the rest of the family comes out and the whole thing just sounds like something out of a rom com.
I gotta admit, I got a little misty eyed thinking about it.
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A friend of the family has a daughter, low mid twenties. This weekend her boyfriend proposed on top of a bluff over looking the vast Pacific Ocean. He went ahead of time and asked her parents for her hand in marriage. They all agreed and the whole family planned the event. He took her up to the top of the hill overlooking the ocean and asked her to close her eyes and when she does he gets down on his knee and the rest of the family comes out and the whole thing just sounds like something out of a rom com.
I gotta admit, I got a little misty eyed thinking about it.
Sometimes traditional things are nice.
Sometimes in this day and age, there are moments with beauty that can’t just be captured with a smartphone. You actually have to live it to get the full feeling of the beauty of the moment and hope to have dreams of that moment just to even come close to reliving it. Chow, what you described is one of those moments and hate to say it but your description can’t even do it justice to what it must have felt like for the couple.
But sharing this was a beautiful moment and, honestly, a nice break from the combat here.
Great thread - as I read the description it reminded me of the last time I visited Point Fermin Park. Those graffitied ruins/cliffs are just to the left of the park area. Funymann's post reminded me of that part, because there's been quite a few slip-and-fall-to-their-deaths that took place there. The area is fenced off with signs but we saw several people hop over the low railing.
I love to read and hear about these kinds of thoughtful proposals and engagements. To find someone you'd like to spend the rest of your life with is a truly wonderful feat. Doing it with such style and class says a lot about the folks in your OP, Chow. Thanks for sharing a nice story to mix things up around here.
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