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Don't fit into any stereotypes or roles so cannot be easily assessed. Some people just have to be able to pin you down as some "type" early on or they feel uncomfortable, even if it is loosely based.
Oh yeah. That's another red flag about me. I do try to disclose it to people who are close to me however.
Discretion is not my default setting. I don't gossip in a mean spirited way, I don't trash talk people, but I do talk about people. I usually say, "If you want me to keep something to myself, I can, I'm perfectly capable of it, but you do need to say so. Don't ASSUME that anything you tell me is confidential."
I know that for some folks this is a total dealbreaker, and I can respect that, it's why I disclaimer it pretty early on.
My boyfriend, despite being rather introverted and private in comparison to me, says he had a wise older male friend tell him, many years ago, "Women talk about EVERYTHING." and advise him to keep that in mind at all times, and to be as good to women in his life as possible so that the things that are said are good things. He knows I'm not just going to make stuff up, so he has never really asked me to keep anything confidential and tells me that he knows I'm going to tell my friends things about him, and he's fine with it.
That is funny. When people ask me to keep a secret, I usually tell them that I will forget what they said. That is the truth.
Sometimes, I say a little too much when I believe I am amongst 'friends'. I usually catch myself and will backtrack.
That is funny. When people ask me to keep a secret, I usually tell them that I will forget what they said. That is the truth.
Sometimes, I say a little too much when I believe I am amongst 'friends'. I usually catch myself and will backtrack.
I mean it could be worse.
I am good friends with a wandering musician who sometimes writes funny songs with ukulele accompaniment about her former lovers and ex partners.
I may confide in a friend, but I won't tour Europe and North America singing songs about your most embarrassing failures as a partner, that's for sure!! lol
I'm a woman who lives alone and has 2 cats. That detail seems to be really good at repelling people of the opposite sex
I love cats, I have one. Don’t worry two cats is no where near “crazy cat lady” territory. The only way two cats would hurt you is if you didn’t take care of them or their litter boxes. The smell of poorly cared for cats does have an affect on men.
-Red Flag 1: 40 y/o male good looking, good income and career, and in great physical shape most of my life- yet never even been close to marriage or even had a real relationship longer than a year (I often fib to prospective dates about the latter as I know it would be a non-starter with most women).
-Red Flag 2: Only one or two friends that I routinely keep in contact with. The rest of my social "real life" contact is at the office or casual hello's at passers by at the gym/grocery store/out and about.
-Red Flag 3: I have the male equivalent of resting b**ch face. Combined with my rather imposing physique- this tends to keep women at a distance.
-Red Flag 1: 40 y/o male good looking, good income and career, and in great physical shape most of my life- yet never even been close to marriage or even had a real relationship longer than a year (I often fib to prospective dates about the latter as I know it would be a non-starter with most women).
-Red Flag 2: Only one or two friends that I routinely keep in contact with. The rest of my social "real life" contact is at the office or casual hello's at passers by at the gym/grocery store/out and about.
-Red Flag 3: I have the male equivalent of resting b**ch face. Combined with my rather imposing physique- this tends to keep women at a distance.
#2 and #3 resonate with me as well. Its partly because of where I live that I have no friends here. They are all back east, tons of them. But living here is isolating. Still, women can misinterpret it.
I have a little bit of #3 too because I am just always deep in thought. Its hard for me to relax sometimes. Working on smiling more.
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