Husband won’t me check bank statements (woman, single, separated)
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Forget the statements. He could pay cash for the booze.
Samples at liquor stores are very small - perhaps 1-2 tablespoon. He would have to go around the town to get drunk. Liquor stores usually don't give samples every day.
He has a problem and he is lying about it. Or in denial. Hopefully he still have a job, but when he get stopped for DWI, he might get into bigger trouble.
Tell him (when he is sober) to get help or move out. Be serious about it.
May I ask the OP, how is your marriage going (minus his drinking)?
Not so good. I mean we have a good friendship sometimes because we have the same sense of humor but most of the time he just sits and plays on his phone. He doesn’t like to do anything and doesn’t really care about making me happy. But what can I do? I don’t make enough to be on my own and I’m 44. Who would want me? And I am too selective also. (Yeah I know my husband isn’t a price but I knew him when I was a teenager).
Not so good. I mean we have a good friendship sometimes because we have the same sense of humor but most of the time he just sits and plays on his phone. He doesn’t like to do anything and doesn’t really care about making me happy. But what can I do? I don’t make enough to be on my own and I’m 44. Who would want me? And I am too selective also. (Yeah I know my husband isn’t a price but I knew him when I was a teenager).
Get a real job. At age 44 you should be able to support yourself. Rent a room somewhere.
Who would want you? That should be the least of your problems right now.
I have a REAL job. A good one at a software company. I make 41K which isn’t bad but not enough to live on. 15 years ago I made 30K and was able live on my own but times have changed.
I have a REAL job. A good one at a software company. I make 41K which isn’t bad but not enough to live on. 15 years ago I made 30K and was able live on my own but times have changed.
It isn't a good job if you cannot exist without anyone paying for you, don't kid yourself. Get a second job or find something else. Renting a room is not that expensive, you can do it with $41k if you do not live in San Francisco, NY or LA. Adjust your lifestyle.
Or just stay with the drunk if that is too inconvenient. Don't complain about your meal ticket then.
Meal ticket? It’s not that easy just to leave. We have dogs. I like my house. We have some good days. He isn’t abusive. I’m just sick of worrying and also feeling annoyance and depression.
This has been going on so long we should know nothing is going to change.
Save your fingers
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