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You know ENOUGH to leave him, any additional information is not needed. Even IF you got more information, you wouldn't do anything with it.
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Do you think the drinking is why he isn’t interested in sex with me or his ex? He doesn’t want anything from me. Not even a massage. And he doesn’t really like to cuddle either? Or maybe he just isn’t into me. But he never seems to be into anyone. Never hear him call a woman attractive or hot.
Something else I notice is how disgusted he acts if he hears of an incident when an older man is attracted to a teenager. It’s like he over compensates his disgust because deep down he is attracted to young girls but would never act on it. Some said to me he might be gay but I don’t think so. I might have thought that if he never showed an interest but at the beginning just kissing me or grouping my breast’s would turn him on. And no I haven’t changed much. I had gained some weight but lost it.
You've been post6ing this stuff since you joined. I have to ask you again, why do you keep coming back to complain, if you don't take anyone's advice? What is your point in posting endless complaints? What's your goal when you come here? Or is it just to vent? We can't change your situation for you. You have to decide whether to stay or leave. If you stay, then just accept the choice you've made, and stop complaining. You have chosen this life. Live with it.
Here's what you said earlier:
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Originally Posted by Adriank7
It’s not that easy just to leave. We have dogs. I like my house. We have some good days. He isn’t abusive. I’m just sick of worrying and also feeling annoyance and depression.
So, you've chosen to stay because of the dogs and the house (as long as it lasts), and because of some good days, and the absence of abuse. These, apparently, are the things you value in life, that make it worth putting up with all the rest.
So stop complaining. Enjoy the dogs, the house and those few good days, as they arise. But you should call your mortgage company, to make sure the payments are being made monthly, in full, or you may not have a house much longer. Then you'd only be staying for the dogs and the occasional good days, until the bank repossesses the home. You must really like those dogs.
So, you've chosen to stay because of the dogs and the house (as long as it lasts), and because of some good days, and the absence of abuse. These, apparently, are the things you value in life, that make it worth putting up with all the rest.
Yeah, you're not the first person to trade love and passion for a place to live, adrian.
Look at it this way. Since he's not into it, at least you don't have to have to have sex with this secretive, alcoholic lump you're staying married to.
Regardless of how obvious it is that he's drinking liquor and not just a few beers, it seems that all she is really interested in is finding a way to prove it like from his spending.
Although if he's paying cash, I don't know how his bank account records would prove anything.
Credit card charges,yeah, but not just cash withdrawals from the bank
Yeah, you're not the first person to trade love and passion for a place to live, adrian.
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I have no problem with her choice, just that she chooses to constantly complain about her choice.
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If he was really just drinking 3 or for Coors Lite a night do you consider that an alcoholic? I know he is drinking more but just asking.
And I do want advice. It’s just hard to decide what to do.
If it's not true, why ask it? It's irrelevant.
It's not hard to decide what to do. You already KNOW what to do. The "doing it" is what's hard, but it's not impossible.
People have left bad situations with less than you have, but you really need to get a start on fixing your own problems while you're doing this. You need a therapist to help you sort our your emotional instability so you won't make the same mistakes next time.
If he was really just drinking 3 or for Coors Lite a night do you consider that an alcoholic? I know he is drinking more but just asking.
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Yes. The fact that he lies about it is also indicative.
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