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A person CAN be defined by a high amount of partners. It shows many qualities about them.
If a person robbed a bank it would say a lot about them. How about 20 banks?
It’s not my fault that people have sex more than hand shakes now a days. I have a right to judge someone’s character by the amount of people they shack up with.
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I wouldn't want to sleep with someone if I don't know them well enough to have some idea of how many partners they've had. So far I have only had sex once, and it was with someone VERY, VERY experienced. And that was good! I need experience in a lover because I am very inexperienced! Plus, if a woman has had a lot of lovers that means she is probably very desirable so that's good too! And I would want a relationship to be an equal partnership with two or more equal partners.
A person CAN be defined by a high amount of partners. It shows many qualities about them.
If a person robbed a bank it would say a lot about them. How about 20 banks?
It’s not my fault that people have sex more than hand shakes now a days. I have a right to judge someone’s character by the amount of people they shack up with.
Amen. And if a girl you’ve been dating for a long time says it’s none of your business, run for the hills. Her number shouldn’t be scary - not every guy wants to be with the village bicycle. I went on a few dates with a girl who was 19 (I was 20) and she had slept with 16 guys and started at age 16. I’m sorry but 16 dudes in 3 years, no, that’s not ok to me. I see why too, she asked if I wanted to sleep with her on the second date. And not even in a sexy way. “We can have sex, if you want.” She said it kind of like it was a chore, which was so weird. I said no that’s ok, I like to get to know a girl better. Then the next girl up actually bragged about her count - I didn’t ask - and said she was proud of having slept with at least one guy from every branch of the US armed forces, a police officer, and a fireman “but no FBI yet.” Umm, ok? She also asked for sex, and I declined. Then she started crying and I said whoa what? “Look, I know you’re just nervous I have an STD, and I do, ok?! You happy now?? I have HPV!” In that moment I thought, wow, I’m so happy I’m not like other guys and don’t just jump on anything that moves. My caution is why I never caught anything lol.
My fiancé’s count is one higher than me but given our counts are both low, I don’t care at all. She is bothered by it because I’m a lot older, but I’m not. I don’t care as much about count as I do about situation though. If your count is 10 and you’re 30, and 6 of those were long term relationships or something, that seems fine. If your count is 10 and you’re 22 and first had sex last year, umm... slow down.
I would rather not ask, as long as we are sexually compatible and are honest about being so. It might bother me to know if she had several times more partners than me, so it's best not to know such things. Who she is now is what matters - neither of us are the same people we were years ago. Now, if those experiences made her jaded or something, I'd be able to see that in the present without knowing her past or the why, and move on simply on the basis of current reality and personality.
I'm not a fan of premarital sex. However, there are certain things I'll let go. Some things I cannot let go. If a woman has had sex with one or two persons multiple times, that's one thing. I can live with her having a previous partner and sleeping with that one partner several times. I won't like it, but it's more tolerable than promiscuity. And by that, I mean this. A woman sleeping with multiple men as if going through a rolodex or the like. That tells me she has alot of promiscuiity in her. If she has cheated on another boyfriend in the past, that tells me I can't trust. I'll see her as unreliable. She might cheat on me if I get with her. If she has male friends, that's one thing. If she's sleeping with those male friends of hers, NO. There are many things I won't tolerate. Sexual promiscuity is one thing I won't tolerate. If I can hold my urges and save it for marriage, at the least, any woman I would want to date, I expect her not to be promiscuous. Having a high amount of sexual partners, it's a turnoff for me.
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