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I'm a married man in his 40s. I've been married to my wife for the past 13 years. Been together for 24 years.
To keep a long story short I've been noticing strange behaviors with my wife for some considerable time now but couldn't put my finger on it. So I Googled "signs of a cheating wife". Out of a possible 10 signs of infidelity she exhibited 8 characteristics (80% WOW!) that she may be cheating. So I went through her phones (password changed but i figured it out) and computer and low and behold the smoking gun. As I scrolled through her HISTORIES I saw where she Googled "sex with ex gave me closure" along with "sex with the one that got away" also "how to not tell husband about affair". I was heartbroken and confused. Could not sleep a wink. This cant be the woman I've been ever so faithful to who swore she will never cheat on me because of fears of diseases and destroying her home in the proceess. Having to look at her sleep and wake up like nothing was going on. I was FURIOUS!
The next morning I confronted her about what I found on her phone. She admitted that she met with her ex a few times but she denied having sex with him. (Maury says, "that's a lie"!)
So give me your opinions? Do you believe she slept with her ex or am I blowing it out of proportion? Is this her sort of confession that she did have an affair? What should I do? How should I confront her again?
But as a general rule, when you reach a stage where you're going through each other's phones looking for dirt, you already have serious problems whether or not infidelity is one of them.
I'm a married man in his 40s. I've been married to my wife for the past 13 years. Been together for 24 years.
To keep a long story short I've been noticing strange behaviors with my wife for some considerable time now but couldn't put my finger on it. So I Googled "signs of a cheating wife". Out of a possible 10 signs of infidelity she exhibited 8 characteristics (80% WOW!) that she may be cheating. So I went through her phones (password changed but i figured it out) and computer and low and behold the smoking gun. As I scrolled through her HISTORIES I saw where she Googled "sex with ex gave me closure" along with "sex with the one that got away" also "how to not tell husband about affair". I was heartbroken and confused. Could not sleep a wink. This cant be the woman I've been ever so faithful to who swore she will never cheat on me because of fears of diseases and destroying her home in the proceess. Having to look at her sleep and wake up like nothing was going on. I was FURIOUS!
The next morning I confronted her about what I found on her phone. She admitted that she met with her ex a few times but she denied having sex with him. (Maury says, "that's a lie"!)
So give me your opinions? Do you believe she slept with her ex or am I blowing it out of proportion? Is this her sort of confession that she did have an affair? What should I do? How should I confront her again?
Curious to know more about your history together. In your 40's and together for 24 years.....so since soon out of college? But you've only been married for 13 years? So you were on and off for awhile (though you were "together") before getting married and it's during that time when the ex first came in?
And at what point did you have such a detailed conversation about cheating that diseases came up as a reason not to?!
I'm guessing that there have been troubled times before with many questions. You'll need to decide for yourself because I doubt you'll believe anything she says at this point, lying or not. BTW, I'll bet that "quiz" was worded broadly and vaguely enough that it could mean anything (kinda like a horoscope) so it really only reflected your state of mind at the time.
I'm a married man in his 40s. I've been married to my wife for the past 13 years. Been together for 24 years.
To keep a long story short I've been noticing strange behaviors with my wife for some considerable time now but couldn't put my finger on it. So I Googled "signs of a cheating wife". Out of a possible 10 signs of infidelity she exhibited 8 characteristics (80% WOW!) that she may be cheating. So I went through her phones (password changed but i figured it out) and computer and low and behold the smoking gun. As I scrolled through her HISTORIES I saw where she Googled "sex with ex gave me closure" along with "sex with the one that got away" also "how to not tell husband about affair". I was heartbroken and confused. Could not sleep a wink. This cant be the woman I've been ever so faithful to who swore she will never cheat on me because of fears of diseases and destroying her home in the proceess. Having to look at her sleep and wake up like nothing was going on. I was FURIOUS!
The next morning I confronted her about what I found on her phone. She admitted that she met with her ex a few times but she denied having sex with him. (Maury says, "that's a lie"!)
So give me your opinions? Do you believe she slept with her ex or am I blowing it out of proportion? Is this her sort of confession that she did have an affair? What should I do? How should I confront her again?
Even if she didn't sleep with him, she obviously wants to and is considering it or she wouldn't have Googled those things. That is still a problem. Have you considered couple's therapy?
Curious to know more about your history together. In your 40's and together for 24 years.....so since soon out of college? But you've only been married for 13 years? So you were on and off for awhile (though you were "together") before getting married and it's during that time when the ex first came in?
And at what point did you have such a detailed conversation about cheating that diseases came up as a reason not to?!
I'm guessing that there have been troubled times before with many questions. You'll need to decide for yourself because I doubt you'll believe anything she says at this point, lying or not. BTW, I'll bet that "quiz" was worded broadly and vaguely enough that it could mean anything (kinda like a horoscope) so it really only reflected your state of mind at the time.
We're in our early 40s. Dated since high school. We never broke up. Relationship has been steady straight through. Before we dated she was with her ex bf for a few months. She broke it off because he was in nefarious activities. I'm familiar with him. When we were dating she said she never had sex with him and only with me. She feared getting diseases from sleeping around. Keep it short she met him at his work a few months back after more than 24 years. They got to talking and he felt some type of way after she dumped him. According to her he has deep resentment by the way she treated him and she felt bad for him. Thats all she told me. She said that she never had an affair on me with him. But going through her phone it says something different. I dont know what to believe.
Sounds like curiosity got the best of her, after only being with you for all this time.
She could have been imagining it when she Googled it, or she could have done it and was actually looking for ways to deal with it.
It's typical for people to confess a little bit at a time, i.e. "I met with him but didn't sleep with him." Odds are she did something you wouldn't be happy about. So be prepared for a full confessional at some point.
Y'all have a LOT to talk about. Trust is shattered.
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