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Okay folks, I did not mention in the original post, that I did tell him I have a boyfriend, and that we each have our own home.
After reading some of your posts, I decided to send him a "cordial, non-committal" text via Gmail. I kept the conversation about my endeavor to exercise to address weight issues and osteoarthritis in my knees.
Here is what I wrote (some parts edited):
Hi:
I hope the summer finds you in good spirits and health.
The advantage of the (name of gym) is the availability to visit a gym that logistically aligns with my daily schedule, as well as my interest in that gym's class schedule on a given day.
I visited a (name of hospital) Sports Orthopedist for a second opinion about my knees. He urged me to HOLD OFF on TKR surgery for several years. He said to continue to lose weight and strengthen the quads and hamstrings to alleviate the arthritic pain. That was reassuring news! I am on that quest!!!
Continue to have a happy summer, dude!
Okay, now check out his response:
Hi babe! All's well thanks! I hope it's the same with you. I'm glad your knee can still improve. Call me if you need me or if you want to hook up, hang out, just chill. Hope to see you soon. It's nice talking to you.
Hook up, hang out, just chill? WTF?
Ohhhhhh, sugar! Does anyone here have hills I can run to?
I'm not trying to do ANY of those things with dude! He obviously doesn't remember me mentioning my boyfriend (or doesn't care).
Plus, I don't want a beat-down from his ex-wife if word ever got out he tried to talk to me! ***** is mean! Besides, I don't do "used goods." That was her man and her problem. I never EVER had romantic designs on him.
Okay, I'm shredding that postcard, like I should've done when you first suggested it! Oh my goodness!!!!
OP, the fact that you even made a thread asking this question is telling me that you are interested in him on romantic level. You answered your own question at the end of your post about what you should do. If you had no feelings at all, it would not be on your mind enough to bring it up. Don't kid yourself.
^ i kinda' agree. the o.p. is a 439-word double-spaced essay including unnecessary details about the ex-wife being a neighbor, maybe shes jealous, maybe hes a wife-beater, he goes to the same gym as you, the wife doesnt like you and accused you of having an affair, the wife is blocking grandchildren from him, ...
all of this is moot. this whole two-paged thread can be summarized into:
OP, the fact that you even made a thread asking this question is telling me that you are interested in him on romantic level. You answered your own question at the end of your post about what you should do. If you had no feelings at all, it would not be on your mind enough to bring it up. Don't kid yourself.
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Originally Posted by M3Guy
I also think that you are using all of this for validation. You are putting way too much thought into this. Ok, he likes you. So what?
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Originally Posted by stanley-88888888
^ i kinda' agree
I agree also. She's also downplaying (if not outright dismissing) the ex-wife's comments about abuse.
"the ex-wife stated that he was "emotionally and
physically abusive" towards her. No one on the block ever saw any evidence of
this, meaning the cops were never called to their house. All was pretty much
OP, the fact that you even made a thread asking this question is telling me that you are interested in him on romantic level. You answered your own question at the end of your post about what you should do. If you had no feelings at all, it would not be on your mind enough to bring it up. Don't kid yourself.
M3 you are sooooo far off the mark. You don't know what you are talking about. I was shocked to get a card in the mail from him, after a chance meeting at the gym.. I'm in a great relationship and have NO interest in a side piece!
"No one on the block ever saw any evidence of this, meaning the cops were never called to their house. All was pretty much quiet on their front. But course, that doesn't mean she was lying."
If I see him at the gym, I will keep it cordial, but reiterate that I have a boyfriend and that the suggestion to hook up, hang up or just chill is already being fulfilled by my man.
Hopefully, that will be the end of it. I don't want drama (or any more postcards in the mail from dude).
Heck, it kinda sounds like he also thought the two of you had something going. "See you around sometime" is a polite parting remark, not a coded message meaning "I will be lying in wait for you".
I wouldn't respond. He already thinks there is more to it than there actually is.
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Neighbor's ex
