So I went on a date with a women I wasn’t attracted to and it didn’t go well (wife, dance)
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You can’t force attraction or a preference for what you like. I believe what a person likes can change, but you can’t just flip the switch and instantaneously go from not attracted to attracted in an instant. OP has complained about his luck but it wouldn’t make sense for him to try to force it with this person. It would also be disingenuous to her. He tried, it didn’t work, and he’s not wasting her time bybstringing her along. Seems pretty reasonable to me.
Believe what you like...I do think this is far more prevalent in men than women though some women are similarly afflicted.
I find it more interesting the range of percentages people find attractive - some people may find 75% worthy of a date (just regarding looks) where others would only find 5% acceptable. We can go on and on about how you can't blame people for not dating those they don't think are attractive but doesn't it make a difference if you reject 95% on that basis compared to someone who only rejects 10%?
And then there is the situation that I had years ago where I didn't want to give this guy my number at a club, he smoked and that turned me off big time, my gf said -- oh give him a chance, so I did and we had the greatest longterm relationship and even lived together, he wanted to get married, I did not, and so we parted ways, he left CA and eventuallly married in MN.
BTW: He quit smoking, chewed on toothpicks for a long while but he quit and I have fond fond memories of him and our time together. He had a great SOH and was a good lover.
He’s not misogynistic either that I’ve seen. Anyone can snap over things that irritate them, but what the guy in the video snapped about was a blanket judgement of women based on how he’d been treated by some.
Some women may have thought the men I wasn’t interested in were amazing, gorgeous even. The one who locked himself in my bathroom certainly was, that’s why I agreed to go out with him. Twice. I knew better though, and that was a lesson I had to learn in person.
Attraction is something I personally feel, not someone I should be attracted to just because anyone else would be. I’m not anyone else, I have to follow my own feelings.
Now you know. Only make an effort to meet women you personally are attracted to, for your own reasons. Experiment over.
Ugh... What is this world coming to?! Going nuts ranting and raving and threatening because no woman would date you?
The last straw much?
A facebook friend of mine openly rants about women rejecting him online because he is short.
He's one of those people who posts his whole life on Facebook. Sometimes when he complains about women rejecting him because he's short, he has almost no basis for saying so. Other times he does.
The thing is he actually does pretty well with women (obviously he posts that too). So either they don't care or don't know.
So much for women's impeccable intuition for the angry, short guy...
I know how my attraction works and I’d rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone I’m not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.
Just make sure that's really true.
Because you could wake up one day soon and be 68 years old and never had a girlfriend or sex, and ... will you be OK with that?
Believe me, it's much more likely to happen than some people think. I know at least 3 guys who are well into their 40s and have never had sex or a girlfriend. And it's not going to get any easier for them.
Personally, I would rather have experienced that, even if it wasn't ideal in certain aspects.
You may also want to consider compartmentalizing.
You could have a very close platonic friend that you do couple type things with, such as hiking, going to restaurants, and trips. If the lady also is in a similar spot in which she cannot find anybody, then it may work out.
You can fulfill your sexual needs via porn or paying for sex, or however you are doing it now.
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