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Of course he can't put it down in detail, but saying "No drama" is going to scare away some women who he would find good because the definition is so broad.
Years ago, a wise male friend of mine told me to write a dating profile that was general, unspecific and happy/positive, and that I would attract EVERY kind of male, because I would just look like a cute happy woman and all men like that. And then after they come (to my inbox), I can weed out the ones that don't fit my specific criteria. So that is what I did and it worked. I believe men should do the same. Don't write what you don't want, be positive and filter later. I don't think men get hundreds of messages from women to filter through anyway, so they should take this approach. I'm talking about single men here. I believe you are married.
I definitely agree with that: write what you want not what you’re trying to avoid. People who are into drama usually are in denial or completely oblivious to how unpleasant they are to be around. It’s not like anyone is going to read a profile and say, “here’s a match! Oh wait, no drama. Well, that’s me, so...”
So despite believing “drama” is generally more understood on a profile than not, I do agree it’s pointless to include it.
I definitely agree with that: write what you want not what you’re trying to avoid. People who are into drama usually are in denial or completely oblivious to how unpleasant they are to be around. It’s not like anyone is going to read a profile and say, “here’s a match! Oh wait, no drama. Well, that’s me, so...”
So despite believing “drama” is generally more understood on a profile than not, I do agree it’s pointless to include it.
Actually, I think most women age 30+ will think she has some drama and will deselect herself. Again because the definition of drama is so broad.
I don’t know about men but usually any woman I know who I’ve heard say they don’t want drama are the ones who always looks for it and have it in relationships lol
I don’t know about men but usually any woman I know who I’ve heard say they don’t want drama are the ones who always looks for it and have it in relationships lol
I'm middle-aged, so like the author said, when I hear middle-age men say "no drama", my first thought is that he's had a lot of drama in his recent past.... And maybe still dealing with it.
I don’t know about men but usually any woman I know who I’ve heard say they don’t want drama are the ones who always looks for it and have it in relationships lol
Years ago, a wise male friend of mine told me to write a dating profile that was general, unspecific and happy/positive, and that I would attract EVERY kind of male, because I would just look like a cute happy woman and all men like that. And then after they come (to my inbox), I can weed out the ones that don't fit my specific criteria. So that is what I did and it worked. I believe men should do the same. Don't write what you don't want, be positive and filter later. I don't think men get hundreds of messages from women to filter through anyway, so they should take this approach. I'm talking about single men here. I believe you are married.
100% on this. Although, it may be considered a boring profile by those who would give you pointers on how to IMPROVE your profile. I find it best to keep it like you stated, srjth.
I keep mines rather ordinary, but when I send my initial email, I get more specific. I put more emphasis on my email message than my profile write-up.
If find a correlation between those calling for no drama, to be the direct producer of the drama. Those who’s actions cause drama in reaction.
Cheater, liar, addict, felon.
ETA: The one person I did meet who’s profile included: “No Drama Please”, revealed at the end of the night that he had recently been in prison. I guess that’s where he gets these images of dramatic women, probably their response to that.
I'd think the no drama deal would refer to head games
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