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I don't believe one's personal improvement should rely on the shoulders of another person. It's not someone else's job to improve your life. The most they should do is add to it. Too many people lose sight of that ideal due to being desperate for a partner. Am I saying you can't do all those things at the same time? No. But taking care of yourself should be for you, not for someone else. Whether you have a partner or you're single you always go back to that baseline of happiness.
And it isn't. But you have to look at it from a personal perspective. If YOU have the relationship that is worth your while, then it is YOU who has improved your life in that regard.
Furthermore, getting ahead with career and getting better jobs is not a one-way street either. Much like relationships, it involves finding the right fit for both parties. But when you do find that lofty, dream job, wouldnt it make you happy?? Oh no, but you shouldnt rely on things like that to make you happy, right?
I just wish people stopped promoting this self-complacency nonsense. This messes up everyone, especially men and women who are easily influenced. Everything good in life requires WORK, and relationships are no different.
And it isn't. But you have to look at it from a personal perspective. If YOU have the relationship that is worth your while, then it is YOU who has improved your life in that regard.
Furthermore, getting ahead with career and getting better jobs is not a one-way street either. Much like relationships, it involves finding the right fit for both parties. But when you do find that lofty, dream job, wouldnt it make you happy?? Oh no, but you shouldnt rely on things like that to make you happy, right?
I just wish people stopped promoting this self-complacency nonsense. This messes up everyone, especially men and women who are easily influenced. Everything good in life requires WORK, and relationships are no different.
I disagree.
A relationship and a career are not the same things.
But we can agree to disagree. I don't think there is anything wrong with being self sufficient and having inner peace without a partner. We shouldn't promote codependency either. I think that screws people up as well. I think balance, common sense, and living a life that's best for you is what should be promoted. If you want a partner, fine. I'm good without out one. And that's okay.
I suppose the advice for OP would be, if you want to meet an attractive man into your 30s and beyond, it does help if you're not grossly overweight, don't smoke, don't drink loads of alcohol or do drugs, eat real food, and remember to wear sunscreen.
Exactly. Its not rocket science. I probably drink more than I should, but have the rest under control. I mainly drink because I'm so isolated. If I was married with a family, I'd drink a lot less, but I digress. Coping with being single when the plan for your life is to have a family is the biggest disappointment there is. That said, the OP has plenty of time. Wish I could go back 20 years and have a do over.
A relationship and a career are not the same things.
But we can agree to disagree. I don't think there is anything wrong with being self sufficient and having inner peace without a partner. We shouldn't promote codependency either. I think that screws people up as well. I think balance, common sense, and living a life that's best for you is what should be promoted. If you want a partner, fine. I'm good without out one. And that's okay.
Yes, all this is good if you DONT want to be with anybody. But, most do. Or CD-R would have zero posts and threads. You yourself have thousands of them.
Yes, all this is good if you DONT want to be with anybody. But, most do. Or CD-R would have zero posts and threads. You yourself have thousands of them.
You do realize the number you're referring to is an accumulation of posts in other forums as well correct?
My post is my opinion, you don't have to agree with it. That's why the disclaimer was there, for the people in the back.
A relationship and a career are not the same things.
But we can agree to disagree. I don't think there is anything wrong with being self sufficient and having inner peace without a partner. We shouldn't promote codependency either. I think that screws people up as well. I think balance, common sense, and living a life that's best for you is what should be promoted. If you want a partner, fine. I'm good without out one. And that's okay.
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You do realize the number you're referring to is an accumulation of posts in other forums as well correct?
My post is my opinion, you don't have to agree with it. That's why the disclaimer was there, for the people in the back.
Sure, and i also realize that 90% of the posts from you, in particular, are about relationships. Yet you keep repping this "I'm good all by myself" stuff. You really don't see the irony in this fact...really?
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