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Old 08-24-2019, 02:22 PM
 
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There seems to be some confusion between "physically attractive" and "attraction." If you equate the two, IMO you are missing some of the most exciting people you will ever meet.

Many physically run-of-the-mill or even homely people, are very attractive as romantic and sexual partners.

 
Old 08-24-2019, 02:26 PM
 
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Well OP, would you want to date a woman who doesn't find YOU physically attractive?
 
Old 08-24-2019, 02:27 PM
 
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Being attractive or good looking is very subjective and although you are an architect ( visual person? ) I think you need to focus more on the intellectual, emotional, spiritual and comparability connection that are reciprocal more than appearances and who’s more attractive, IMO.
 
Old 08-24-2019, 02:30 PM
 
Location: equator
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If anyone should feel used it’s me being used for my looks. These woman put me on a pedestal because of how I look while I’m the one judging them by how they treat me.
Used for your looks, hmmm. Pedestal ….

To echo the hilarious Birdie: "Doubt it."
 
Old 08-24-2019, 02:47 PM
 
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I’m not bragging I’m bringing up the positives of dating down looks wise.

You’re making me out to be a bad guy when I’m the one who’s tried to look deeper then just looks.

If anyone should feel used it’s me being used for my looks. These woman put me on a pedestal because of how I look while I’m the one judging them by how they treat me.

Its more likely you only see it as dating down, while you are actually dating within your caliber.
 
Old 08-24-2019, 03:02 PM
 
Location: London, U.K.
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Um....pardon my obtuseness, but if you hated having sex with them, why did you do it? You had the option not to, you know. Are you still f-ing them, even though you supposedly hate it?


This was a long time ago. First time I was 21, second 31. Both lasted 3-4 months. Everyone says its the honourable thing to ignore looks and only consider personality....

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Old 08-24-2019, 03:02 PM
 
Location: The ghetto
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I’ll show you a pic of me and my girl if youd like
Post the pic.
 
Old 08-24-2019, 03:05 PM
 
Location: London, U.K.
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You say this A LOT.

Post pics and back it up then. Take a lot of selfies in real time, too, of you on the keyboard with "City Data-R" on the screen to show you're not faking. You're either fooling yourself, or trolling for entertainment.
I'll think about it. I like the anonymity of city-data. Although it sounds like a boast, being a good looking man doesn't really make a huge difference to your life like it does women. I was the ugly duckling until age 18.

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Old 08-24-2019, 03:06 PM
 
Location: London, U.K.
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What I want to know is why you didn't break it off with someone who moaned and moaned about how you weren't rich enough for her. Where's your self-respect? Don't you want to date someone who doesn't just see you as their ATM? I think you have issues that go way beyond finding an attractive partner.
She was good in bed and I was building new extensions to her spa.
 
Old 08-24-2019, 03:12 PM
 
Location: London, U.K.
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From another thread currently running:


Weird that you left that part out here. Sorry that you are disabled.

I have neurological problems caused by the antibiotics I took in my teens to control acne (which I went on because I fell in love.) Last August I suddenly lost 10 kilos in weight, started going numb and weak all over. My strength is slowly returning but I get good days and bad. Some days I think it'll be ok in about a year, others I feel hopeless.

Dating is off the charts for at least the next year. Health is my main focus at the moment.

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