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Originally Posted by ClaraC
I agree, I have a problem with that too normally.
Gratuitously, randomly telling a woman you don't know to smile is obnoxious.
But when a woman is asking why, after many many attempts to go out and meet people in bars, no one ever approaches her or acts interested, it's probably very good advice.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
Diss is the one guy here, who gets it. There's a history in the US of who was privileged to tell whom to smile, that I'm sure Diss is well aware of, that informs his position on this. Bless you, Diss!
There is no dispute that smiling typically gives more of an inviting appearance to guys wanting to approach. But if it isn’t your move, it’s not your move and no one should be trying to regulate your emotions. I personally a guy worth his salt would still approach her even if she had a RBF if he was interested.
I like to think the challenge for dude would be to make her smile under her own guidance not tell her to smile.
But she is...well, she's a lot to handle for several reasons, that are way beyond the scope of this conversation. Getting male attention is easier than easy for her, but keeping a healthy relationship has not worked out. She's tried to commit herself to at least a year of not being in any sort of relationship but she's still trying to date around and have a good time. Problem is, guys are really pushing her for more.
I'm going to guess she easily makes too many guy friends, too many options to want to settle down, loves to play the field, sounds too high maintenance IMO.
I’m not the most attractive girl ever. In fact, I’m pretty average. I’m not white. I take very good care of my body. I’m very thin and fit. However, I have friends who are white, tall, blonde. Whenever we go out, they stand out more, even if they are not thin or fit. (I’m making mention of the body because it is the only thing I can change about myself. I really do take great care of my body, but I guess that’s not important to men.) I live in New York City and I definitely don’t stand out. Whenever I am out with my girlfriends, they have men approach them first. So I just end up sitting at the bar alone, or excuse myself and go home early.
I am in my mid-20s and have never had a boyfriend. I kind of give up dating. I don’t even allow myself to fall for a man because chances are, he won’t like me back. I’ve never been in a relationship. Sure, I’ve had flings, but no man has ever liked me enough to make me his girlfriend.
I tried dating apps, but you know what? Maybe something is wrong with the way I look. I have olive skin and black hair. There are actually gorgeous models on dating apps, so I’m not a top choice for anyone.
I’m not sure what to do. I just don’t even want to be with anyone anymore because I’m so used to not having anyone. But I’ve never had a boyfriend. Don’t even know what it feels like to know a man longer than a one-night stand. (Men will sleep with anything.)
I think the issue lies with you. I see a toxic side here. I'll point you to a good hard working guy any day of the week. Question is, how constructive are you going to be?
You're not one of these entitled chicks who struts up to the bar with an attitude, gives the guy a quick perfunctory glance, then frowns and pulls out her phone as she awaits his expected offer of a drink, are you? All without saying a word and doing nothing more than flipping your hair?
Gratuitously, randomly telling a woman you don't know to smile is obnoxious.
But when a woman is asking why, after many many attempts to go out and meet people in bars, no one ever approaches her or acts interested, it's probably very good advice.
Well not only that, if you know the woman even a little bit, and she actually has a nice smile that lights up her face, suggesting that she smiles while waiting for guys to approach her is sensible advice.
Randomly telling a woman to smile without any context is definitely obnoxious.
How was the early family life of the OP, especially her relationship with her father?
Isn't that getting a bit personal?
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