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My husband is out of town on an assignment til November and we had a brief argument over the phone via text.
Anyway, today he messages me very formally saying "Hello. How are you and how is the baby doing? Please don't say good/fine/ or else I won't ask in the future." he is usually sweet in text messages (baby, honey) & today there was none of that (we've been married 7 years w/ a 7 month old
He exhibits a lot of machismo and it's annoying quite frankly. It took him 3 days to respond (since Sunday & it's now Thursday) How long would you take to respond? Should I give him a taste of his own medicine or "go high when they go low?"
I'm seeing my therapist next week b/c we've been having some communication issues as of late.
My husband is out of town on an assignment til November and we had a brief argument over the phone via text.
Anyway, today he messages me very formally saying "Hello. How are you and how is the baby doing? Please don't say good/fine/ or else I won't ask in the future." he is usually sweet in text messages (baby, honey) & today there was none of that (we've been married 7 years w/ a 7 month old
He exhibits a lot of machismo and it's annoying quite frankly. It took him 3 days to respond (since Sunday & it's now Thursday) How long would you take to respond? Should I give him a taste of his own medicine or "go high when they go low?"
I'm seeing my therapist next week b/c we've been having some communication issues as of late.
Thanks everyone!
You should choose the option that least resembles game-playing.
You two have been together long enough to know how to figure this out. Ignoring each other or intentionally delaying a reply just to hurt your spouse is a bad idea. Giving someone a taste of their own medicine is a bad idea.
Just reply and be normal as you would want him to reply to you. Don't avoid the elephant in the room. Get it resolved because distance is enough of a challenge. No need to add in childish behavior.
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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Originally Posted by BirdieBelle
You should choose the option that least resembles game-playing.
You two have been together long enough to know how to figure this out. Ignoring each other or intentionally delaying a reply just to hurt your spouse is a bad idea. Giving someone a taste of their own medicine is a bad idea.
Just reply and be normal as you would want him to reply to you. Don't avoid the elephant in the room. Get it resolved because distance is enough of a challenge. No need to add in childish behavior.
I was thinking this as well. I feel that he is somewhat childish at times and likes to give the cold shoulder/silent treatment and he's 42 years old
I did reply to him just b/c I felt in my gut that it was the right thing to do.
That sounds like a lot of resentment over a long period of time and it was an insensitive comment that he made. It's also very little information to go on in your post so it's anyone's guess what might have happened to either of you in your marriage leading up to this.
I think you're on the money with the communication issues. I hope both of you get back on track. Try not to resort to any long drawn out discussions via text message no matter how convenient it may seem at the time. Things generally get confused this way.
My husband can be immature, I can be immature, we just try not to do it at the same time.
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Why is everything today text? Anyone remember an actual phone call?
I personally like the sound of my wifes' voice. And don't forget the 7 year itch. We went through it, and came out just fine.
So the spouse didn't respond for three days? Wow. If you're mad at each other a text is the worst thing possible. Stonewalling is worse. A phone call, make a phone call to them. This far in you should be able to talk things through. If not, it is a unhealthy. It is also toxic to a relationship.
I wonder why couples don't just speak on the phone if an argument is brewing via text. Once things start getting heated (in a bad way), it's time to stop texting and have a conversation. You can sort out issues much quicker and easier as opposed to cryptic texts and passive-aggressive behavior.
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(we've been married 7 years w/ a 7 month old
